5 Things All Husbands Desire From Their Wives

Today's society continues to paint men as tough creatures with little to no emotion. But that simply isn't the case, and any wife who falls for such heteronormative stereotypes will end up in a rather unhappy marriage. In a union, you need the other person. It's a give-and-take, in which you and your husband are both responsible for supporting the other in what they need. In this post, we explore 5 things your husband needs from you.

1. Love

It goes without saying that a sound marriage is built upon a foundation of love, but too often, the love is implicit rather than explicit. Even if they don't enjoy "The Notebook," men believe in love, and need displays of affection, respect, and kind words to fully feel your love for them. Don't fall for his bravado; show him the love he deserves (when he deserves it of course!).

2. Affirmations

He doesn't get excited when you compliment his outfit, but he does appreciate when you tell him you're proud of or impressed by him. Affirm your pride in his work, in his lovemaking, and in his commitment to you as a husband and member of this family.

3. Trust

To be fair, trust should be gained, not simply given. But if you do trust your husband, really trust him. Give him the benefit of the doubt when you can. Show him that he earned your trust and that you value his trust as well.

4. Sex

Here's a stereotype that fits most men: they enjoy sex. You should enjoy it too of course! Find ways to incorporate more sex into your marriage, ways that turn you both on and provide immense pleasure. 

5. Emotional support

According to psychologist Dr. Shannon Kolakowski, in an article for "The Huffington Post,"

"What he really needs and craves is emotional support. Men won’t always tell you. They don’t even always know they want it. But it’s a universal need that many men have."

Let him know that you've got his back, that you'll be there when he falls, through the good times and bad.