New relationships are an exciting time full of coded text messages, coffee dates, and enlightening conversations. When a real connection strikes, we often freak out and fall faster than we intended. It's completely natural to worry about the potential of getting into a one-sided relationship. You may be tempted to change yourself to try and fit into what you think he wants, but spoiler alert, if he's worth it what he wants is you. Nonetheless, here are 7 ways to make him fall for the best you, and catch up.
1. Conversation, not just flirting
Sending a wink and a witty one liner won’t make you a stand out. Instead, you’ll just be one on his list; some girl he doesn’t take seriously. Don’t dominate conversations about how much you want to cuddle him or how good he looks in polos, have some depth to your conversations. The way to make a boy interested in you is to be interesting, have a deep conversation that goes far and breaks boundaries. You will never be “one on the list” if you have 2 a.m. conversations about life with a boy who is used to conversations about Netflix and chill.
2. Order the burger
Boys can sense when a girl is reserved. No one falls for cold, they fall for real. When you go on that first date don’t feel the need to put up a certain image. Chances are, the image you put up will come off boring and uninteresting (and that’s only because it’s a lie!). If you’re all about burgers at Five guys, don’t go for the salad option. A boy wants a girl he can relate to, not a girl that spends thirty minutes of their date picking at romaine and croutons.
3. Listen
It’s all about the small details. Nothing will impress a boy more than a girl who remembers his favorite sports team, his best friend's name, or his go-to Buffalo Wild Wings order. He’s around guys all the time, so meeting a girl who cares about what he has to say, and lets him get soft is truly valuable. He’ll become dependent on having you in his life, because you won’t just be the girl he goes on dates with. You’ll be the girl that is his best friend.
4. Touch him
That small, fragile line between being best friends and being romantic interests. While you shouldn’t over do the touching, make it clear that you’re interested in him with subtle body language. Some guys need to be hit in the head and told that the girl is into him, but some hand grazing and hair-playing won’t hurt. The more comfortable he feels with you, the deeper your relationship will become.
5. Fight with him
It seems kind of destructive to disconnect with someone who you want to really connect with, but argument and intellectual conversations can only add to a relationship. No one wants someone who will be at their beck and call, always agree with them, and follow them blindly. If you argue and stand your ground, you will show that you have an independent mind and you’re not afraid to share your opinions. Confidence is sexy; flaunt it.
6. Share your passions with him
Talk about things that make you happy, because it will make you happy. Your smile will radiate and he will spend the rest of the night hoping that one day, he can become the passion that makes you giggle and talk. Until then, share why you love to write, why you dance, or why you have that scar on your left ankle. Once he learns things about you that he couldn’t just see from your Instagram, you will become a memorable, vital part of his life.
7. Fall for yourself
Yes, it is that simple. He won’t fall for you if you don’t fall for yourself first. You won’t let yourself open up to someone emotionally until you accept who you are. You are that beautiful, you are that worth it. That smile I mentioned earlier? Wear it. If you don’t have your own self confidence, you won’t put the best you forward. And while he deserves the best you, you deserve it more.
