Sorry To Burst Your Bubble But Sleeping In The Same Bed IS CHEATING

You and your man got into a small argument the other day and you're not completely on the greatest terms with each other. To fix this problem, you should go home and have a long discussion with him to figure out what went wrong and what each of you can do to fix this issue so that it will not happen again, right? But, instead after a long day at work you decide to bottle up that anger with him by grabbing a few bottles of your own with your co-workers at the nearest bar. 

While your man may think that your co-workers consist of the ladies in the office that just want to gossip about the latest celebrity breakups, he doesn't know that it also consists of a few of the guys at the office, one of which you've had a bit of a physical attraction towards since you two met at the office. But, it's just an off hand attraction and nothing will happen, right? Maybe not. 

The group grabs some drinks, shares a few laughs and the number of people begin to dwindle as the night closes. But the longer you last there, the more comfortable you're feeling around your co-worker that you always found handsome. The two of you will share a few glances, maybe a light touch on the back, and he'll probably buy you a drink or two, but of course that's where you think you'll draw the line. As the night comes to a close he offers for you to hangout at his place, because after all you can't drive home due to the drinks. 

So now you're at his house and can't drive home because you're a bit too tipsy. He offers you to sleep over so that you don't have to stay up waiting around to sober up to drive home and get only two hours of sleep. In the back of your head you know this is a bad idea. You know you're attracted to him and that he was flirtatious with you at the bar (not to mention the constant flirtatious moments in the office), this just can't be good. But, something just makes you stay and sleep over. So now the two of you are lying side by side in bed and you close your eyes to at least try to pretend to sleep. But your mind is racing about what the two of you could be doing at this point, fantasizing of what you'd like to do now that you have the chance. He, on the other side of the bed, is most likely thinking of all those things, and more, and might even make a slight move by "accidentally" grazing your back.

So now you've made it to the morning and you didn't end up doing anything while sleeping in his bed. Therefore, you did not cheat on your man, right? Wrong! Fact is, sleeping in the same bed, whether or not you did anything, is cheating. The fact that you had to double think about staying over, had admitted to yourself that you found this guy attractive and had casual flirtations with him that night and during work, makes this cheating. When you can admit to yourself that while the two of you were lying in bed next to each other and thought about what you could do with each other while in bed is 100% cheating. To be honest, sleeping in your co-worker's bed with him might be worse than sleeping with some random person that you just met. 

The reason that it is cheating, is because you have feelings for this guy, as you admitted to liking him and finding him attractive, and you still decided to push the limits of how close your relationship could get without hooking up. While this may be the first time this has happened, it's bound to happen again and most likely end up going all the way. If the tables were turned and you found out that your boyfriend "just slept over" at some girl's house, you'd most likely throw a complete fit. Think about it.