Ciara Explains Her Controversial #LevelUp Post, Says She Was Talking About Self-Love

Oh Ciara!

The singer, wife and mother of two is trying to backpedal a little after getting dragged for her entire life by Black Twitter, mostly Black women, for a polarizing Instagram post. 

See, her post was a clip of Pastor John Gray, going on and on about how women need to start acting like wives instead of girlfriends if they want to be married. (Meanwhile, there's no mention of telling men how to behave and treat women with respect and love, but we digress).

Ciara captioned the clip with the hashtag #LevelUp.

Granted, there were plenty of people who agreed with Ciara on this one, there were A LOT more who took issue with the post for a range of reasons from her forgetting her past with Future...to shaming Black women for not being married. 

So....after seeing that her name was trending on Twitter for all the wrong reasons,  she decided to clarify what she posted and set the record straight.  

She then posted on social media the following note: 

“I was once that girl wanting to be loved a certain way but was making the wrong choices," Ciara wrote. "I found myself at my lowest moment. I was a single mom sitting at home, and then I realized that the perfect love I was looking for was how God loves me, how He wants me to be loved, and who He was calling me to be as a mom and a woman.”

“That’s when I realized married or not married… I needed to love myself," she continued, adding: "#LevelUp.”

Listen...we hear her on the notion of self-love. 

You shouldn't have to put up with anyone's nonsense or disrespect. And it's important for all of us, men and women, to know our worth and realize that we deserve to be happy in our relationships with one another. 

None of us should feel that we have to settle for anything less...and that's an important message that everyone needs to hear. 

But many wonder, why use this video to convey that message? 

Why share something that suggests that Black women are the sole reason why they are single? And what does acting like a wife instead of a girlfriend even mean? 

Most importantly, Black men need to be included into this conversation as well. If someone is mistreating someone, shouldn't they have to take responsibility for it? It can't always be about what the woman is doing and how she is acting to justify the treatment. 

just saying. 

FAM: What do you all think about this video clip? Was Ciara wrong or are people tripping? Weigh in...