Creative Foreplay: Ways to Prepare for Intimacy (Outside of the Bedroom)
Foreplay is a word that pretty much all of us associate with sex. After all, it does mean “a prelude to sexual intercourse”. But if you asked all of your girlfriends (especially the ones who’ve been married for a while and have a couple of kids) what their idea of good foreplay is, chances are, it starts way before stepping into the bedroom.
It’s no secret that the mind is the biggest erogenous zone. In order for someone to truly enjoy the sexual act, they need to feel a mental and emotional connection. One of the best ways to do that is to be attentive, proactively so, hours before the act of sex even begins.
Wanna know how to get more creative with foreplay and how to get your spouse to do the same?
We’ve got a few ideas…
1. Kiss in a place other than the bedroom in the morning
It’s always sweet (and even healthy) to start off your morning with a kiss. Kissing improves your mood, protects your mouth from tooth decay (due to the increase of saliva to wash away bacteria) and can reduce blood pressure and headaches. Spice things up a bit by surprising your spouse with a kiss in the bathroom or kitchen rather than the bedroom, though. The element of surprise plays a huge role in foreplay!
2. Put a love note in their purse or briefcase
When’s the last time you and yours exchanged love letters or even a greeting card? No matter how long the two of you may have been together, it’s always a sweet and sentimental gesture to drop them a note telling them why you love them or what you still find to be hot about them. It’s a surefire way to make them excited to see you at the end of the day.
3. Plan a spontaneous date
Think back to when you first started dating each other. Remember the butterflies that would come as you were getting ready for your first, second and third date? One reason why a lot of couples struggle in the romance department is because they stop dating each other. You can turn that around in your own relationship. Show up to their job with lunch plans or tape an already booked reservation onto the bathroom mirror one morning. Spontaneity is key to romance and good sex.
4. Help them around the house
This might sound odd at first, but did you know there was a study conducted that indicated women are more interested in sex when their house is clean? (Tell your husband that!) Helping your spouse around the house is a practical way to show them that you empathize with their schedule and life demands. The more proactive you are about reducing their stress, the closer they will feel to you.
5. Pamper them
A foot massage. A bath with rose petals. Their favorite bubbly while they sit and watch their favorite program. These are some simple ways to pamper your partner. It also sends the message that you want to make them feel cherished, just for being in your life. Do these things and you might get “tackled” right there on the couch!
6. Cuddle. Without expectation.
If you and your spouse are in the habit of being affectionate with one another ONLY when it’s time to get busy, that can actually work against the quality of sex that you have with them. Foreplay isn’t just about the few minutes prior to intercourse. Kisses on the forehead, holding hands, touching each other in passing, cuddling---all of these things send the message that you want to connect emotionally, not just sexually. It always works in your favor to get close without expectation because you’re doing it with the one you love. And if it leads to sex? A HUGE bonus!
