How Sex Can Be SEXY Again (After A Baby)

Having a baby is no joke. It changes everything about your life, including your body. And to a certain degree, your body image. Although there is truly nothing more miraculous or beautiful than giving birth, between the labor and delivery itself, being a sudden milk machine and the lack of sleep, “sexy” is usually the last word that you would use to describe your new normal.

Your man on the other hand? You might want to ask him how he feels about you. While a lot of women assume that new motherhood is not much of an aphrodisiac, many men find it to be quite the turn on. A woman giving birth to their child? That’s boss. In every way.

But as you’re finding the balance between new mom and sex kitten, there are some things you can do to get back into your groove. Try a few of these tips. Let us know how it all goes in the sexiness department.

1. See your doctor

Your hormones are on the roller coaster ride of their life following the birth of your child. This plays a bigger role on your sex drive than you may ever know…unless you make an appointment with your doctor to talk with them about how you’re feeling. You just did the most miraculous thing ever---you gave someone life! Don’t feel embarrassed if your libido is a little off because of it. Sometimes a little hormone therapy is all a woman needs to get back on track.

2. Get a new lingerie collection

Your body has changed. Maybe not forever but at least for now. And to be honest with you, it will probably never be 100 percent the way it used to be. Grieving is understandable, but it doesn’t do much good to dwell on the past. Embrace your new normal by focusing on the extremely womanly body that have now. Take it shopping for some lingerie that accentuates all of your best parts. Don’t think you have any? Ask your man. He’ll be happy to run down the list.

3. Take a trip

A new perspective changes everything. It might be a while before you and yours can go on a romantic vacation (especially if you’re breastfeeding), but it will do everyone some good if the two of you get a night off at a local hotel or bed and breakfast. A place where a baby is not crying every 20 minutes and you’re not smelling the “aroma” of baby diapers. When you're ready of course.

4. "Explore"

You’ll never know all there is to know about sex. No one will. That’s a part of the fun about it! Use this as an opportunity to learn more about what makes the both of you tick. If certain positions now make you uncomfortable, that’s not abnormal. The good news is there are some that will help to bring the old feeling back again. We did some research. Click here to read about 10 of ‘em.

5. Have sex at "odd" times of the day

Babies can really throw your schedule off. Your sleep schedule and your sex schedule. Your man is going to want it whenever you’re willing, so try and work around your baby’s clock. When they’re sleep, get some lovin’ in. If it’s 3am, so be it! Good sex doesn’t wear a watch. 

6. Try some lubrication

Dryness is a complaint that a lot of new moms have when it comes to sex. It’s usually tied into the whole hormonal shift thing. There’s a simple solution. Go to your local drug store to pick up some lubrication or you can make your own if you want. Click here for a really simple recipe.

7. Take your time

You’re easing back into things, that’s the silver lining about all of this. Since when has taking things slow sexually ever been a bad thing? The fireworks may not come back immediately, but ask your friends who have kids, pleasure will return again. Don’t rush the process. Enjoy relearning the old and experimenting with the new. It could get you on your way to some of the best sex you’ve ever had!