How To Be Great At Receiving Oral (Because It's Just As Important As Giving)

"It's always better to give than to receive." So true, except in the case of oral. Then, it's usually better to receive.

But, you have to receive the right way. It's a big deal for a guy to go down south and you certainly don't want to scare him off. 

Now, you're probably like "WTF? All I have to do is lie there and probably orgasm, right? What else could I possibly do?" Well, little missy, that just proves how much you have to learn. By receiving the right way, you can help coach your guy without hurting his feelings, raise his spirits, and get him excited to get you excited.

So, let's get started. Especially if it's a new relationship, sometimes oral isn't an A+.  Guys, if you're reading, we always give extra points for effort, so don't worry about it. But since every girl is different and what the guy has done before might not do it for you, this is where gentle guidance comes in.

If he's not quite in the right spot, it doesn't help anyone for you to lay there like a dead log, yawn, or have a look on your face like you're planning your grocery list. Show a little enthusiasm when he gets closer and give some gentle feedback. Don't yell commands every two seconds, but give simple cues. Lighter, faster, a little to the right, things like that. 

He'll find it really hot if you show him with your fingers where he should focus his attention. If the pressure or speed of his tongue movements are off, grab his hand and demonstrate on him. He'll find that very sexy and it'll give him an idea of the kind of pressure and speed you find most pleasing.

As you continue to receive, don't fake it. You'll only get him set into bad habits and that's no good for anybody. Plus, some days, oral just isn't doing it for you. If that's the case, gently guide his face to yours, kiss him (wipe his mouth first if that grosses you out), and tell him you'd like to skip to penetration. He'll be cool with that.

Then, after the heat of the moment is over, you can both talk a little more calmly about things you like and don't like. He's less likely to get offended and you're less likely to show your frustration.

Now, if your guy just can't do it right, we don't want you to just sit and take it so you don't hurt his feelings. You deserve to have a good experience. But if your instinct is to yell or tell him that your ex did it way better, that's just gonna end in disaster. Try to work together to find what works for you. If you are patient and reward him with moans or screams when he gets it right, he'll learn a lot faster.

Also, to be the best kind of receiver, you do have to give from time to time. It just isn't fair for one person to always do the giving, so make sure you throw him a bone, so to speak, so he feels like an equal in the bedroom.

With these little tips, you'll be a grade A receiver and get a world class giver as a result.