Is It Rude to Say "I Do" Around the Holidays?

It's no surprise why the summer is the most popular time of year to get married. People are more likely to be able to travel and the weather is almost always better. You've got to think of those wedding photos! While it may be the most picturesque time, it's not always the best for your bank account and that's when you've got to opt for the fall and winter. Which, don't hate - you can still have a beautiful ceremony then. It's just, with these being so close to the holidays, some see it as total fail on the couples part for numerous reasons when they get a save the date that reads anywhere from November to December.

Like in summer, people do get vacation time during the fall and winter but have you ever traveled around Thanksgiving or Christmas? The majority of us aren't even happy to do it for free turkey and presents. So the thought of having to book a flight, sit in a chaotic airport and not get anything out of it but a wedding favor - it's a pill that is not going down easy. Plus, the cost of travel during that time is outrageous no matter when you book tickets. Another negative notch on that one.

Speaking of cost. The holidays aren't only expensive due to travel, but again - presents. People are already going overboard buying this for their mom, that for their Aunt Joyce and whatever else for the other random cousins they'll be forced to see on Christmas Eve. So inviting guests to a wedding during this time of year is only adding yet another cost to their growing list. That's not even just because they'll feel inclined to buy a gift, but there's again the travel costs, and a new ensemble if they have nothing to wear OR if they're in the wedding party.

That's another thing, the wedding party. These are usually the couple's closest friends and family and typically they would be there at the drop of a hat, but if they aren't related to the couple and/or living in the same city...it's rude to make them choose you over their own loved ones all because you wanted to say "I do" around Christmas.

While it can be seen as rude to get married around the holidays, never fear because there are easy fixes to all of this. When it comes to guests from out of town, just don't invite them. Tell them you're keeping it very intimate and had to cut the guest list. They'll probably feel relieved to not have to make up an excuse about why they can't make it. So invite those local grown friends and family, and when you do - make sure to note that they don't have to give you gifts, or set a price limit so they aren't pinched for cash for their own holiday spending. The bridal party is where it gets tricky because if you're best friend lives on the opposite coast from you - you're going to have to have a stern talk about whether or not she wants to be your maid of honor or not. If she says she can't make it due to the time of year, just don't get upset. It's likely hurting them as much as it's hurting you.

There are various reasons why it's rude as hell to get married around the holidays, but if that's your only option - you can make it work.