Is There Really Such a Thing as Love at First Sight?

If you think about what goes into a true love relationship, you already know the answer to “Is there really such a thing as love at first sight?” Love is about more than feeling a spark or being deeply attracted to someone. Love is a choice. Love is a commitment. Love is a set of actions that you display to someone to show them how much you care about their needs and feelings.

And who can possibly say they are prepared to do all of that just by seeing someone across a room?

That’s not to say that there aren’t a ton of people who believe that “love at first sight” exists. That’s also not to overlook the fact that there are some people who have seen someone, made an instant connection and ended up together.

Just make sure before you decide that you are one of them that you take these things under advisement….

1. There is such a thing as serious infatuation at first sight

A whole lot of people get into trouble because they don’t know the difference between infatuation and love. And just what is infatuation? Basically it’s what happens during the very beginning stages of an encounter when sexual attraction is really intense. It gives you the impression that you’ve met the love of your life without really having much information about them. Infatuation is fun but it’s also fleeting. Give yourself a few months so that you can get to know someone better before declaring that it’s true love.

2. There is such a thing as oxytocin

Oh oxytocin. It has so many nicknames. The “happy drug”, the “love chemical”, the “feel good hormone”. It’s naturally produced in the body and one of the times it happens is during sex. When an orgasm happens, the hormone kicks in and causes you to bond with the person you’re with. This is why some people think they’re in love after a one-night stand. This is also why you should wait awhile before having sex to begin with.

3. There is such a thing as good timing

Did you ever see the movie Definitely Maybe? It’s kind of an oldie at this point, but it’s still a goodie. There’s a conversation in the film when one character asks the other how one can know they’ve met “the one”. The person shared that it’s not just about meeting the right person but doing so at the right time. So true, so true. The right thing at the wrong time is still the wrong thing. Sometimes, you’re ready for a serious relationship and you look up to discover the person who catches your eye is too. (Yeah, it’s nice when that happens.)

4. There is such a thing as wanting the same things

All of us long to have someone in our life who we feel we are compatible with. That said, there’s nothing like going on a date with someone and the entire time is filled with “What? Me too!” It’s special but ease into thinking that it’s love. Sometimes compatibility is more suited for friendship than romance. You can’t know that in two dates. Let time run its course.

5. There is such a thing as being delusional 

After reading all of this, you might be like “Well darn. Is there such a thing as love at first sight?” Here’s the thing. Yes, there is. But if you take all of these points into account, hopefully you’ve come to the conclusion that it’s more the exception than the rule. Love at first sight is a magical experience, but you want to make sure that you get more than a feeling. You want the real thing. Just because you feel butterflies doesn’t mean you’re headed down the altar. Go through a few things together. Have a couple of arguments. Let each other have a bad day or two. It’s the challenges more so than the good times that will help you to know if what you’re in is love…or just an illusion. 

The first time you see someone may be the beginning of something beautiful. Enjoy the process. Don’t rush it.