Set the Caged Kitty Free: Don't Hold Back Your Sexuality
Ladies! Do you hold back sexually because you're scared of what he might think? Set yourself free!!! I want you to think of the FREAKIEST thing you can imagine and DO IT, TONIGHT! (or as soon as possible. PUT THE KIDS TO BED HONEY B/C ITS MR. NASTY TIME) DO THE FREAKIEST thing you can imagine (with your husband/partner). Several female clients have said, "I wouldn't know where to begin" “I don’t think I can do that”, “I'm not sure if he will really like it" or “he is going to think I am crazy!” You cannot let what you think, he is thinking stop you from setting yourself free in the bedroom. If you think it, DO IT! Just because you are the woman does not mean you cannot be aggressive, dominate, or take charge. Take what you want, tell him what to do, spice it up! Women confessed many times during sex, they will think to do something nasty and because it is out of character, do not act on it...WHY IS THAT?
One Client said, "When my husband is on top, (It feels great) but, many times I actually think, what if I threw him on the bottom, put his hand on my breast, and started ridding like a pony? What would he do?” But what did she do? She, like many of us, let the moment pass her by! Again, I challenge you to ask yourself, WHY IS THAT? (Well, I know why, and I will tell you why, but I want you to take a moment and THINK about it first! Why don't YOU take Charge more often in the bedroom? Who initiates a "position change" in the middle of sex? Him or you? Who pushes whose head down using actions only no words? Who's spanking who? Who is holding whose hand firmly above their head so they cannot move?
Well, the most obvious answer is that society has programmed many of us to believe a successful relationship is "The Stepford Wife Model", you know she cooks, she cleans, polite and always well spoken, she takes care of everybody's needs 1st and pushes herself , her desires, her fantasy's, and her needs to the bottom of the list. These habits all stem from a loving place but our desire to please has carried over to the bedroom, and we are silenced often by routine, familiarity, and fear. What if he doesn't like what I do? What if I can't.... What if this.... ? All these IF's paralyze your passion. If you are not free and liberated to do and try new things and adventures in the Romance Department, then you are not living your best life! That's right your life can change from a boost of you doing more of what makes you happy and less worrying about what others will think.
But, would you like to know the BEAUTY in this? The beauty is, once you try it, you will see there was nothing to fear but fear itself, all this time you have had nothing to worry about. He will love it!! Common reactions from husbands are "Wow, You should do that more often", I don't know what has gotten into you, but I like it”, oh and a classic "Is today our Anniversary?". "You're turning me on like it used to be". Let's get rid of how it use to be, and make it how it is, right now. A regular healthy practice to incorporate into your bedroom... YOU DOING THE NEW, SPICY THING... YOU ARE THE NEW SPICY THING!
I DOUBLE DARE you to set that KITTY free! He will think “I don’t know what has gotten into my wife, but I like it!” Try it, and if I am wrong write me. Remember, there is a time to be innocent and bashful...the pretty little sweet wife but, then there is a time to be a WILD WOMAN!!! So, go buy that DOMINATRIX OUTFIT! Lay on the bed WITH YOUR FAVORITE TOY. Tell husband, NO TOUCHING...HE CAN ONLY WATCH!!! Or, If you're up for a sure treat (if you haven't you MUST) sit the kitty on his face.
Feel free to use a "FAKE" name when responding... But be sure to write back about your freaky night, what were you thinking? WHAT DID YOUR HUSBAND SAY!!!
This post originally appeared on Just Listen by Delsia Davis but was edited and posted for The Fab Gab.
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