Sex Is Like Wine: It Gets Better With Age
The people who think sex in their 20s is great have another thing coming. When you hit your 30s and 40s, sex becomes hotter, orgasmic, lusty, and a bunch of other sultry adjectives. In a word, sex becomes BETTER!
This is what I asked my "older" friend, Liza. At age 38, here's what she had to say about sex getting better as you progress through life:
1. You know what actually turns you on
When you're young, you assume that sex is what you saw in movies. But in reality, there's so much more out there. Whether it's kinky play or just unusual positions, there's a whole sexual world to discover. Once you find someone you're comfortable with, you're willing to go to the edge and see what really gets you going.
2. You're more comfortable in your skin
It's hard to be perfectly happy with your body, but I've found that in my older years, I've at least come to a point of accepting my body as is. I don't let fear or inhibition hold me back. If he has a problem with my body, he can jack off for all I care. I'll get mine elsewhere.
3. Verbalizing what you want comes (pun intended) naturally
It's one thing to know what you want, but it's another to verbalize it. In my younger years, I was afraid to ask for what I want. But nowadays, if a guy isn't doing what I want, I've got no problems telling him how to get me off. In fact, he usually appreciates it.
4. Your sex life is yours, and yours alone
I spent so much time comparing myself to my friends in my 20s. Who were they sleeping with? How much sex were they having? Today, I only care about my sex life. Comparing gets you nowhere in life. The sooner you realize this, the sooner you'll begin truly living your life.
5. Exploration becomes common
I think age corresponds with sexual bravery in some ways. Something clicked when I turned 30, and suddenly, I was down to try new things in all areas of my life, including the bedroom.
6. Body hair isn't such an ordeal
My friends and I laugh about how much we used to fret about the length of our pubes. Sometimes I wax. Sometimes I shave. Sometimes I do nothing. Guess what? It has little to no bearing on the amount of sexual pleasure I receive? It's all about the connection with the other person these days.
