Why You Should Never Talk To Your Virgin Friends About Sex
If you had a medical problem, you wouldn’t ask your mailman for help, right? Well the same logic comes into play when it comes to sex and your social circle. If you’re trying to talk about getting it on, be it good or bad, your friends still holding on to their v-cards are not the most helpful. While they can provide an ear to listen, they aren’t going to be able to give any real insight other than what they’ve read or seen in movies. That’s why it’s good to have a variety pack when it comes to friends because some are just more helpful than others in certain situations - and when it comes to sex, your Virgin Mary gal pals aren’t it.
It’s not that these friends are immature in any way. Hell, they could be the most responsible people in the pack but no matter how you slice and dice it, they’re inexperienced when it comes to the real world of sex. So when you talk to them all you’ll ever really get is textbook talk. You know the kind, the sort of conversation where a person can only quote studies they’ve read online or that one class they had in college like five years ago. When you’re talking about your vajayjay and booty calls, you don’t really want or need the statistics from a sex-ed class your girl took but knows nothing about. Because when you talk about sex, it’s personal and you want to have an exchange that has give and take. If you’re the only sexually active one, you’re giving and not getting anything back from her.
Not to totally diss your girl like that, whenever she starts thinking about her virginity being a thing of the past - you’ll be there for her, no question. For now though, she’s not the one to be gabbing about sex with over brunch. Trust, I was the lone virgin among all my high school friends once we reached our 20’s and I was basically a mime whenever the conversation turned to sex positions, pleasurable toys, and all that other stuff I was a mere outsider to at the time. It felt like I was a 12-year-old overhearing my mom and her friends.
When you want to talk about sex, it’s best to find those in your inner circle who are and have participated at least once so that it’s a conversation and not just you rambling on while the Virgin Mary looks across the table at you with a blank stare. She’s your girl and you love her, but when it comes to this - she’s not the best suited because she doesn’t have any personal experience to bring minus her facts and figures.
