What Does Your Sleep Style Say About Your Relationship? We Think A LOT!

Are y'all on the right track or do you need to take it way back?! What does your sleeping style say about your relationship? I think, it's like a picture that says a thousand words.     

I Believe HOW YOU SLEEP WITH YOUR PARTNER directly reflects the STRENGTH or WEAKNESS of your Relationship.

Below I will describe the top 5 sleeping positions of most Couples and more importantly what it means for your relationship. Either you're on the right track to LIFE LONG BLISS or there is TROUBLE IN PARADISE...And I'll show you how to Fix it Quick!

 Side Note: The dominant partner is usually the one with their arm wrapped around the other person. The more sensitive partner that generally needs more attention, is generally the person who rests their leg atop the other partner.

1. THE KING & QUEEN

One arm around the other partner means he is a real protector. (If that hand makes its way to a boob, He's a real protector and a little FREAKY too!) Sometimes y'all are so close with the spooning that you both end up on the SAME pillow! Y'alls Sex life is great, you have good communication, because one of you is more dominate make sure the less talkative one feels comfortable enough to speak on their Bedroom desires: what THEY like. HINT

Reminder: Make sure the roles don't become too "assigned" in the relationship or the bedroom. Spice it up sometime be spontaneous.

(If you need ideas e-mail me or go read my other post on TIPS to Keep it Spicy in the Bedroom)

2. IT TAKES 2 TO MAKE A THING GO RIGHT!

One of you starts sleeping with your head on your partners chest. Your arm rests across their body, subtly showing your passion and trust.If your leg is on or thrown across your partner (& he didn't say "it’s too hot move your leg") that shows your needs are often considered above their own. #winning! You both are secure in your relationship, and the sex is good. You both enjoy touch and have great communication. You both feel comfortable talking about any & everything. From reflecting one each other’s day to the kids and plans for tomorrow.

Reminders: Make sure you BOTH are communicating for that sexy night cap and 1 isn't always dominating the conversation. Make sure you both make each other feel special. Your mind is on pleasing THEM and theirs is on pleasing YOU (a secret to being married & winning life).

3. SWEETHEART & GENTLE LOVE BIRDS

Laying or sleeping facing each other. You usually end up holding or touching, showing a strong physical connection. You two have great communication and are very comfortable.Facing each other is a classic position to promote conversation. You both are secure and have a wonderful friendship as the foundation of your relationship. Your night cap usually includes laughter. The sex is good, but y'all need reminders to be spontaneous every once in a while. Don't let the steady flow of routine become so normal that the interest and spark for your partner fades in the mundane routines of everyday life.

4. STEPPING ON A CRACK

You're now sleeping back to back. This can be the beginning of the end OR your wake-up call! One of you is usually in the bed WAY before the other.  It is limited to no conversation. If there is conversation it's about everything but the relationship. Y'all talk about: kids, family, work etc., not each other, the passion, or love: This is what we call "distractions" and "buffers". They keep you from talking about the issue, but y'all still love each other so you're both just trying to keep it going...

You both turn your backs and may mumble, “good night" (on a good night there is a gentle peck)

There is sex every now and again, but you're growing in distance.You both are quickly becoming unattached or disinterested in the other. Trust you still have desires and basic needs, y’all need to choose to turn it around and start taking steps to passion. Watch a movie LAYING on each other, play a ROMANTIC game.

Y'all need to NOTICE this distance & talk about it, there is still time. You CAN still get back to endless love.

Conversation Starter: Honey, do you remember when we would have sex ______ times a week? What happened?  True, but what can we do to fix it? We need to get back to "US" being a priority.  I miss the passion or the _______

5. THE KISS OF DEATH

Think WAY back, Can't remember the last time that touch sent tingles up your spine? Dry silence, no love, affection, or in-fact NO passionate kissing at all? Looking for an exit or a reason to leave the room, accepting the fact that someone will end up sleeping out of the room with excuses to justify including; they snore, they sleep too wild, the baby is sleeping in the bed, argument, work schedule, etc? 

Y'all need to have a come to Jesus moment to talk about the issues and get it together like NOW!!! You both have basic needs of touch & love that MUST be fulfilled. If you or your partner are not being fulfilled eventually you will get "something" to fill that void.

Try the Conversation starter from tip 4.

If you think it's too far gone or don't know where to start and the conversation starter didn't work, CONTACT ME & we will work through this together, because the distance will only GROW if ignored...A lot of couples make the mistake of having children to fix it, only to realize the distance is still there or came back after the birth...having a baby is like putting a Band-Aid on something that needs stitches.

LISTEN UP!!!!

THE FIRST 3, Y'ALL ARE GOOD TO BE!!

THE LAST 2, I NEED TO SEE YOU!!

(No really schedule an appointment so we can talk about y'alls relationship and what we can do to restore the Passion!!)

We all have to sleep, and if you’re MARRIED you should ALWAYS be sleeping with your MATE!  (Unless someone is out of town, no matter how "angry" you both are, you should not sleep apart. Instead of sleeping apart, cool off, talk about it, maybe go to a different part of the house & process, but y'all have got to agree beforehand to always be honest with each other and talk it out. 

For keys to effective communication head over to Amazon & Purchase my Book. The Sexy Wife.... a day in the life. This 3 part pocket guide will take your relationship to the next level.

Post originally appeared on Just Listen by Delisia Davis, edited for The Fab Gab.

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