Who You Callin' a B*tch? The Pros and Cons of Being an Outspoken Woman
They say the hand that rocks the cradle rules the world. Well, women are doing more than just rockin' the cradle! You may find them in the boardroom, the operating room, and in nearly every position of leadership one can imagine--both domestic and foreign.
Know for a certainty that accomplished women are no shrinking violets. They have strong opinions and are not afraid to speak up whenever they feel the need. Unfortunately, outspoken women are often misunderstood.
Women who assert themselves are generally more confident. They know what they want and are not afraid to ask for it. What's wrong with confidence? When it comes to dating, this quality is often perceived as a more masculine trait and can be a big turnoff.
According to an article entitled, "Annoying Things Outspoken Women Deal with on the Dating Scene," by Julia Austin in Madame Noir, men want to be the pursuer in the relationship. If you are not willing to be patient and play the game, move on quickly. He isn't the guy for you.
Corporate America is still very much a boy's club. Powerful women have learned that it is necessary to speak up and advocate for themselves in regards to equal pay and upward mobility. The downside to achieving success without compromise is workplace hostility, sexism, and harassment.
Assertive women are often belittled when they make their opinions known. It is not unusual for them to be asked questions like, "What's wrong with you? Are you on your period or something?"
In a Time magazine interview earlier this year, Anita Hill reflects on what it was like to testify about her charges of sexual harassment against Supreme Court Justice nominee Clarence Thomas during his confirmation hearings twenty-five years ago. She believes that she was never taken seriously:
Women who file complaints don't usually rise the corporate ladder as quickly as those who "go along to get along." But, it is important to take a stand against gender discrimination and harassment. The law is on your side. Just be ready for a fight. After all, the "boys will be boys" mentality still prevails.
Outspoken women are generally happier, empowered, and less stressed than those who suppress their feelings and keep their opinions to themselves. They are much less likely to take on other people's problems and know how to push back when they feel like they are being used.
Traditionally-speaking, women are expected to be nurturing and maternal--all of the time. There's nothing wrong with displaying those qualities. However, you may also find outspoken women at the forefront of a protest one day and pushing for policy reform the next. Sadly, their willingness to go against the grain often leads to being branded angry, difficult, and the dreaded "b-word."
At the end of the day, women's voices are just as important as men's are. It is their right and their duty to express themselves. If doing so makes them b*tches, then so be it. Keep ruling the world.
