Creative Ways to Be a Bit More Spontaneous in Your Marriage
If you go to Google and you put in “reasons for divorce” and follow that up with “boredom”, you’ll actually see quite a few links about people who ended their marriage because it made them yawn.
That might sound silly on the surface, but just think about it. How would you feel if your marriage always had the same routine, no spontaneity, never any surprises or fun and the sex? Well, you’d rather wash dishes or pick weeds out of your lawn than do that.
Marriage has its ups and downs. Not every day is going to be like your birthday or Christmas. But it’s important to be intentional about doing things that can get you and yours excited about one another and being together---whether it’s been two years or 20.
One way you can do that is to find ways to date your husband. Not dinner and movie.
Be a little more creative than that…
1. Meet him at a local bar and role play
It can be a bar or a restaurant. But don’t go together. Take separate cars and meet, like you’re meeting for the first time. Put on one of those outfits that you know he loves (Beyonce’ one called it a "Freakdum Dress"), some “even you are in love with yourself with these on” Stilettos and walk in with seduction in mind. The “role play” key here is to take his imagination back to a time when you both were very attracted. Where you couldn’t WAIT to rip one another’s clothes off! Your favorite drink or aphrodisiac food, paired with some naughty conversation will turn the heat up. No question.
2. Mail him a "It's Your Day" coupon
Think about how you would feel if your husband walked into your home office and said “You know what? Today is all about you. Whatever you want to do, whatever you need from me, let’s do it!” Yeah, that smile that just came to your face, times it by 100 if you did the same for him! Something that’s a tried-and-true tactic is make your own coupons and hand them to your husband for him to use all in one day or as the mood hits. Never made one before? No problem. Some easy instructions are located here.
3. Take him shopping
There are a lot of wives who complain about their husband’s sense of style, but aren’t doing much to change it. One way to influence his look without putting him on the defensive is to take him shopping. The only reason we only see this in the movies is because more woman haven’t brought it off of the big screen. Get him some new shirts or a suit. Then meet him in the bedroom that night with one of the accessories you bought like a tie or hat. And nothing else.
4. Email him a hotel reservation
Maybe it’s the change of scenery. Maybe it’s the plush bed. Maybe it’s realizing that you won’t have to clean up the room afterwards. There is something about hotel sex that’s hard to shake! So book a reservation. The weekend is cool. But during the week is even better. Don’t even give him the heads up. Just shoot a reservation confirmation to his email account with a time to meet. He won’t be able to get there fast enough!
5. Have some wine (and lingerie) delivered
When’s the last time you had something delivered to his job? NEVER. Then there’s definitely no time like the present! His favorite bottle of wine from one service and a box of lingerie in his favorite color from another won’t require a card. He’ll get the point. And does this qualify as a date? Yep. Ask him to bring the wine to dinner and tell him that you’ll put on the lingerie in the bathroom while you’re there. And that dessert will be served up---after.
6. Draw him a bath. Then join him.
If you’re short on cash, but you still want to do something romantic, draw your man a bath. Pour in some milk to soften his skin and a few drops of lavender (relaxing) and cinnamon (to boost his libido). Add some rose petals, candles and some of the music you used to dance to. Then after he’s been soaking for about five minutes, join him with some fruit. He won’t want to get out of the tub, let alone go out, for the rest of the night.
