Don’t get carried away with your text-happy fingers and type your discontent with your significant other over any type of messaging. From the DMs to email, this method of calling

it quits is as lame as it gets.

There’s an informal, unwritten rule that forbids such shortcuts to hitting your loved ones with heart-breaking news.

Don’t violate the code!

If you didn’t want your family and friends in your business when you and your boo were together, you should know that you’re damn sure wrong for recruiting them to

do your dirty work.

We mean, come on, how old are you? 12?

To break up with someone through another person is a sin. I’d dare to even say that

it’s a straight up violation of the Relationship Commandments. Don’t get others in on the breakup just because you want to save face.

If you do, well congrats to

you. You’ve just made your now ex, even more humiliated.

Avoid the douche move and resist unfollowing your boyfriend or girlfriend on Instagram and any other social media platforms if you’ve figured out that you just can’t deal with being

in a relationship.

Puberty and biological changes have afforded you the right to adult and do, well, adult things. This does not include the douchey unfollow-move. They deserve better than

that.

Your lover has finally stolen away to vacay bliss with her girls, something she has been looking forward to for the last 5 months.

Instead of being there when

she comes home with a house full of rose petals that lead to the bedroom and her favorite meal on the stove, you instead opt for her to come home

to an apartment void of your clothes, only half of the furniture, and a missing Fire Stick.

If you dip out like this, then she deserves the Fire Stick and

any other cool ass tech toy that y’all shared, hands down.

We’re all grown here, and if you’re grown enough to be in a relationship, you’re grown enough to tell your soon-to-be ex the truth.

Some folks cop out and resort

to, “I have to move to another state for this new job offer,” or “My grandmother is dying and I need to put all my energy into helping her.”

The

lowest of the lows! Don’t stoop to this level.

You really couldn’t find any other day to break it off with your beau? Really? 365 days in the entire year, and their birthday was the best timing? SMH.

 Hitting

them with the news on their birthday will make the next few birthdays quite unbearable with the memory of selfish-you dumping them on the day they entered the world.

Come on, grown people, we know ya’ll have better timing than this!

This should be a given, but common sense ain’t too common! Don’t embarrass your new ex by breaking it off with them in front of their cousins, siblings, and that

auntie who already can’t keep his name out of her mouth.

Don’t fuel their fire by dumping them amongst family. That’s so dirty, ugh!

Distasteful isn’t even the word. Cruel, maybe? We’d even go as far as calling it ruthless. Who decides to just wake up one day and take your side boo to

a place where you absolutely, without a doubt know that your current-boo will be? WHO?

Unfortunately, the world is filled with people who commit ruthless acts such as this. Please

refrain from being one of them.

So, your sweetheart is having his/her work celebrated at a fancy schmancy dinner that you’re of course invited to, but rather than adorning them with flowers and that new watch

you know they’ve been eyeing, you hit them with the, “It’s not you, it’s me.”

If you’re going to break up with someone, at least wait until their shine is

over, damn!

Ah, ghosting. Can we just say that this is not Power and you are not the ultimate street/business hustler who can vanish at the drop of a hat? This is

not an option once you have agreed to be someone’s bae!

You can’t just disappear without a thing to say or yet leaving the slightest hint that you were unhappy.

My God, man, get it together! These are the basics.