Each of you have to admit to one another and yourselves who is causing what problems between the two of you before you can get to the root of them.

Let them know you and your partner are considering counseling and that you’d really appreciate them respecting that decision by not taking sides, gossiping or adding any other drama to

the mix.

If only one of you wants to go, you’re never going to achieve anything there. Plus, it’ll be a waste of money and time.

Not only do both have to be ready to commit to the process, but ya’ll have to be ready to endure the time counseling takes. Things will not be fixed

overnight.

Like you recognized who was causing what problems, you also have to have actual goals you want to achieve so you know what you’re working towards.

You also have to take time to look at who you are before you start this. What do YOU want out of life, love and this relationship.

If things aren’t going well, then something - someone- has to change. So be ready and willing to do so.

Some counselors are better for those wanting to keep things going, and others are better for those who are looking to amicably split.

If we learned anything from First Wives Club it’s that sometimes your counselor will shack up with your man right under your nose. So be sure to find someone you

can trust 100%.

If you feel you and your partner are talking about it, then don’t wait too to get started on getting through these steps, so you can get to the actual

counseling.