If your wife feels like you’re not listening, that you are not making time for her or that you’re putting her at the bottom of your priority list (and that

NEVER should be the case), don’t be surprised if she doesn’t want to cuddle up to you—or anything else for that matter.

The brain is the most powerful sex organ

there is. This means that she mentally and emotionally needs to feel a connection with you in order to be physically stimulated. How can you know if she’s getting what

she needs? Ask her. When you get home tonight, simply say “Honey, do you feel like I make enough time for you?” That question alone will earn you some major

brownie points! In and outside of the bedroom.

It’s kind of amazing how many couples have resorted to texting when it comes to having serious conversations. Although it might be convenient (to an extent), the problem with it

and email is that even the best writer has a hard time conveying tone. Plus, if you’re like a lot of men, you probably are not the wordiest, which means

that you can come off as flippant or short, even if you don’t mean to. Anything that is pertinent should happen face-to-face. Even if your wife initiates something serious by text

(or email), ask her “Can we discuss this at home? That way I can give you my full attention.” It will work in your favor. Promise.

Have you ever heard the quote “The first duty of love is to listen”? It’s very true. Listening is not only about hearing what someone is saying. It’s about letting

them complete their thoughts, thinking before responding and then thoughtfully speaking. Another thing about listening is that you should take your body language into account. Not looking at

her, sighing or turning up your lips---these are indications that you’re not listening in a way that makes her feel secure.

This one? It’s not your fault. When anyone says they are “fine” when they’re not? It is the ultimate form of being passive aggressive and you have every right to

be a little annoyed. If this article was for your wife, we’d encourage her not to do that; and to say what’s on her mind the first time. That said,

it’s not uncommon for husbands to ask “You good?” and for their wife to follow up with “I’m fine” only to be mad the rest of the day. Bypass this

by taking her by the hands, looking her in the eyes and asking her directly. It’s going to be harder for her to avoid the question if you present it

this way.

We already touched on this, but you’ll be able to keep a lot more peace in your home if you master the fine art of body language. For instance, when

someone speaks fast (unless that’s what they naturally do), it usually means they are anxious. If someone crosses their arms over their chest, they are going on the defensive. If

your wife covers her mouth while you’re speaking, some part of her does not believe what you’re saying. Putting her head in her palms as you’re talking means she’s bored.

To learn more about body language signs, click here. Oh, and don’t take it personally when she does these things. Chances are, she doesn’t know what every action

indicates. But the more you know, the better you’ll be able to understand what’s going on. And empathy is the key to healthy communication.