Don't interrogate him. Men don't want to feel like they're being interviewed or are standing trial. A study by researchers at Stanford University and the University of California

at Santa Barbara concluded that men red-flagged when their date kept asking them questions. It was determined that ladies tended to do this when the conversation hit a dead-end. Researchers

also pointed out that men were turned off when women used uninterested language, like "sorta" and "kinda." 

In contrast, guys felt more connected to their date when women

talked about themselves—using words like, "I" and "me." 

Try these sentence starters: 

"On my free time, I like to..."
"I'm really passionate about..."
"My favorite place to travel to is..." 

Then engage in

conversation by asking your date what they like to do, what they're passionate about, or where they like to visit.

Don't dominate the conversation, or come off as conceited. And, although a common variable suggests that the preferred conversation focus is on the woman, be sure to entertain

your date's thoughts, as well. 

This is how to know if your date thinks you're "clicking". According to the study, men who are into you will laugh, and interrupt you—in

a good way—to discuss a shared experience or understanding, perhaps over a band or a specific place. Men tend to change the volume of their voice also, lowering it

to sound more masculine. 

According to psychologist Richard Wiseman's book, "Quirkology: How We Discover the Big Truths in Small Things", when couples talked about travel, they were 18 percent more

likely to see one another a second time. The theory here is that when dates talked about the intimate experience of their travels—holidays, vacations, dream-getaways—they appeared more attractive and happier. 

The lesson here, don't talk about politics, movies, or those buttery dinner rolls. Talk about the places you love, to score that second date. Not been anywhere? Talk about somewhere you'd

love to visit one day.

Unless the guy is uber A, once the conversation heats up, share something personal with your date. This creates an intimate connection between the two of you, making them

feel important. 

Perhaps a small line like: "I've never told that to anyone..." 

A piece of advice here—opt for a small, funny secret. No deep, dark family demons

need be revealed during this phase.

I know it's uber corny, but it's so true. According to 20th-century sociologist Erving Goffman, people tend to act differently when faced with certain situations. When it comes

to first dates, this can mean that people tend to put on a performance, of sorts, in order to be someone more likable. Start off as yourself, because relationships that

expect you to change are too much work.