We’re all busy. Ain’t no one so busy that they’re always pushing a call to voicemail or can’t respond with a text to say “I’ll hit you back.” If when

you first started talking he was consistently available, but suddenly his schedule is super tight and it’s been this way for a few weeks now (and he didn’t give you the

heads up that it would roll like that), something’s up. A man makes time for what’s important to him. If talking to you is not on his list of things

to do, take it personally. And consider that you just might be in the process of being ghosted.

There is such a thing as a text stalker. Sending someone 5-6 texts, back to back, within an hour, is annoying. If you’re doing this, you are well on your

way to getting ghosted if you don’t stop. No, we’re talking about if you send a message and you hear absolutely nothing for a day. You might want to tell

yourself that he didn’t get it or his phone was off, but…probably not. Within 24 hours, he’s called someone or checked his IG. That means he saw the notification of

texts on his phone. If you asked a direct question or tried to make plans for the weekend and all you got were “crickets”, he’s ignoring you. Point, blank, period.

There's a disclaimer to this point. If he doesn’t spend a ton of time on social media anyway, then this may not apply. But if that’s how you used to

talk during work hours and suddenly he has nothing to say when you send a message, or if you’re constantly seeing new pics up on IG but he’s not replying

to your DMs or liking your own pictures (especially when he’s online too), pay attention to that as well.

This isn’t only a sign of him ghosting you, it’s just plain rude! A date is a time when the two of you can hang out and get to know

one another better. If you planned to have dinner and he shortens it to drinks or you make plans on Tuesday for Saturday and Friday night he cancels (without a

really good explanation), at the very least, he doesn’t value your time. Even if he’s not ghosting you, he’s not appreciating you. Promptly bring it to his attention.

An excuse isn’t a good reason. If he has an excuse for why you can’t go out this month, if he has an excuse for why he never wants to

talk about the relationship, if he has an excuse for why he can’t talk about either one of these things---one more time for the cheap seats, he’s ghosting you! Excuses are a

way to avoid responsibilities and when a guy always offers them in a relationship, he’s basically saying that he doesn’t want to be in one. Take the hint. And pardon

the pun, but it’s time for you to get ghost!