Technically, a date consists of two people going out and spending time together. Sure, sometimes there can be exceptions, like cooking dinner at one of your houses or watching a

movie on the couch. But, if a guy is really trying to build and bond with you, he’s going to want to go beyond the four walls of your living

room — or his bedroom. 

If he’s not? Girl, it usually means one of two things. Either he’s not trying to be seen with you in public (another article for

another time) or he doesn’t intend on investing time with you beyond what’s happening in between the sheets. Either way, you deserve better.

Texting is convenient. And it’s super-convenient when it comes to setting up booty call sessions. If you only hear the sound of his voice when he’s knocking on the door to say

it’s him or when he’s on top of you...ugh! A healthy relationship consists of healthy communication. This means actually talking with each other. Are you doing that?

Not to say that great sex doesn’t happen for folks during the daylight hours, but a lot of us are at work then. That’s one of the main reasons why

so many people reserve sex for a nighttime activity. 

Think about your sex partner (a.k.a. the guy you’re seeing). Does he call you first thing in the morning to say you were

on his mind? Does he send you a text or email to check in during lunch? Or, do you only hear from him at night...and usually late at night? We

won’t even tell you what to think about that. You tell us.

Here’s something you might've never thought about. When you’re in the act, what is he saying? A guy who doesn’t want to be held responsible for anything is going to be

as quiet, or at least, wordless as possible while he’s doing the do. He’s not going to say he loves you. He might not even say the sex is good. Why? Because

he doesn’t want to give you the impression that it’s more than just sex. 

All of this might be hard to hear, but listen for his silence. It tends to scream,

“I don’t want anything more than sex with you!” if you’re really listening.

A classic sign is that he ghosts you on and off. One week, he’s calling you multiple times. But then, after you have sex, you don’t hear from him for the rest

of the month — besides his one-or-two-word responses that he gives you via text or in your DM. You can’t be in a real relationship with a ghost. Enough said.

Sex can (and should) have some affection in it, but that’s not always a given. This is a sign that can also be hard to detect at times due to

what goes on during the act. Pay attention! If you feel like he’s not really into you after the deed is done, don’t ignore that stinging feeling. There’s probably a

boatload of truth to it underneath the surface (or the sheets). And if you want more than just sex, you should have it. If not from him, from someone else.