Sometimes, when rejection happens, we’re more in shock that anything else. We just knew we were going to get that promotion. We just knew that guy was interested in us.

We just knew things were going to work out in our favor. Keeping in the back of your mind that rejection is always a possibility (because it is), that’s not

about being pessimistic. It’s being realistic. You have to remember that people have the right to accept or deny whatever and whomever they want to at any given time. Knowing

this makes the blows of rejection a lot easier to take, if and/or when they happen.

The flip to this is sometimes we know that we did not give our best to something. It could be a project at work that would’ve earned us a promotion,

but our boss wasn't pleased with our presentation. When this happens, don’t look at it so much as rejection. See it instead as a nudge to step up your game.

It’s so much easier to walk away from something when you know that you have your all and things just didn’t work out. When you don’t do your best and

you’re rejected, a part of you is left always…wondering.

This isn’t to blow smoke. It’s the truth. Say there’s a guy you’re really feelin’ and he’s not interested. For a moment, you could be tempted to feel like he

“discarded you as useless or unsatisfactory”, but c’mon, girl! You know better than that! Sometimes a rejection is the Universe’s way of saying “Everything that glitters ain’t gold. You’re dodging

a bullet with that brotha.” One way you can know this off top is by how a man rejects you. If he’s rude and insensitive, why would you want to

have a friendship, let alone a relationship with someone like that?! Don’t always look at rejection as you missing out. Sometimes it’s more like you being spared.

Some of the greatest things in life come with risks attached. That said, you’ll never know about most things unless you try. If you did and things didn’t work out

as you hoped, try not to look at it as rejection. Smile for even having the confidence to step up to the plate. One way or another, you’ll be rewarded

for your efforts. If not now, later. Fortune favors the bold.

So much easier said than done. We’ll give you that. But it is possible. So long as you know your worth, your talents, your capabilities and what you bring to

the table, there is no need to take rejection personally. They didn’t get to see you and all of your fabulousness whether they realized it or not. Their loss. What’s

next?

And yes, there’s always, ALWAYS something better! One thing that we’re not are fortunetellers, so no matter how wonderful some things (or people) may appear to be, if the opportunity just doesn’t

work out, many times you’ll look up and say “Whew! I’m glad it didn’t.” No matter how much rejection may hurt right now, allow it to be a surface wound.

Heal and ask “What else is out here?” You might just be surprised how quickly life blesses you with the answer to that question. All because you took rejection like

a big girl and didn’t allow it to destroy you. Good for you. You’re already winning on that alone.