Fairy tales are not real, they are scripted stories! If you're waiting around for Prince Charming, you should stop...he's not real! Adjust your standards because they might be too high for any

human being to reach. Or, are you using your incredibly high “bar” as an excuse to not get close to anyone? If so, you’re the walking definition of what it means to

run from love! “If it’s not perfect, I don’t want it.” Sound familiar? Newsflash. No one is perfect. Not even you. Newsflash again. Real love always trumps the perfect-cinematic-kind. Because

it's reality. Not a fantasy.

You’re in, you’re out. Love avoiders can sometimes be detected because they play emotional double-dutch. On one date, they’re talking about being ready to settle down. On the next one,

they’re on some “I just want to keep it casual” stuff. Love avoiders are notorious for leaving people confused and eventually irritated. That’s because they are experts at sending mixed signals.

And that’s because they don’t know what they really want! If you see yourself in any of this, it's a red flag to think long and hard about.

Something else that love avoiders do? They have no problem making plans for the weekend or your birthday. But they can't answer a question like, “So, where is this going?” That’s because they freeze up

at the thought of real commitment. Not just because they're afraid of getting hurt, but because they don’t want the responsibility that comes with being in an exclusive relationship. Sure, they'll date you. Settle down, though? Probably

not. Can you relate?

Do you have a hard time expressing your feelings? Even when you know that you truly care about someone? Yeah, that’s not good. Love avoiders are the ones who say,

“You know how I feel, I don’t need to say it.” And usually that’s because they don’t want to be held accountable to anything. Emotionally mature people can talk about

how they feel and listen to another’s needs. Would you consider yourself to be this kind of person?

There’s a BIG DIFFERENCE between having sex with someone and having sex at someone. When you’re involved in a truly intimate experience with an individual, more than your body is

involved. Your mind and spirit are all up in it, too. You’re not just after an orgasm; you’re trying to make a real connection. What side of the fence are

you on?

“I just can’t say ‘I love you.’” Yeah. That’s not something to be proud of. Love is a beautiful thing and saying it to someone (and then hearing it back)

is a truly special experience. 

If you have a hard time saying the “L” word because you’re afraid of rejection, that’s understandable. Remember that sometimes the best things require risk.

But if you can’t say, “I love you” because you don’t want anyone to expect anything from you, you’re the PERFECT EXAMPLE of a love avoider. 

Be careful. Love avoiders

oftentimes look up and realize that although they had a lot of dates (and/or sex), they’re still all alone.