Whomever said “It’s not about a lack of time, but one’s priorities” must’ve had relationship on their mind when they said it! 

When you decided to enter into a marital union,

what came along with that was declaring to your spouse and the world that they were going to become a top priority in your life. If they need you, you’re

as good as there. When something comes up in their world that requires your support, you’ll make the necessary adjustments to have their back. When they call or text, you’re

available. 

Being married doesn’t mean that your spouse is your only priority; that’s not only unrealistic but unhealthy. But it does mean that you’re going to make sure that they know

they take top rank. And you know what? If the relationship is healthy, they will provide the same assurances for you too.

Someone once said that secrets can be seductive. In a marriage, they can be dangerous too. This doesn’t mean that your spouse should have every password to every account or

they should answer your cellphone. But it does mean that if you’re hiding certain things from them, you might want to ask yourself why. 

Some of the strongest marriages consists

of two people who are the best of friends. And good friends? They can talk about pretty much any and everything. Two committed people who have an open line of

communication are in the kind of healthy relationship that many envy.

A lot of relationship counselors will recommend that you and yours being on the same wave length when it comes to your religious beliefs. But that’s not actually what we’re

talking about here. A spiritual connection is literally about your spirit feeling aligned and in sync with someone else’s. You both feel comfortable with each other. You both make each

other better people. You don’t only have physical intimacy in common. You want to help one another attain your goals. You can’t imagine not supporting and celebrating each other. Healthy

marriages are profoundly spiritual.

If you’re an engaged person reading this, one reason why it’s highly recommended that you go to some sort of premarital counseling is so that you and yours can be

sure that you share the same values. What’s your sense of family? Do you want children? How important is religion and politics to you? How do you feel about money?

Healthy married couples don’t have to agree on every single thing, but they should have more in common when it comes to how they approach the world as a unit

than not.

A sexless marriage (where two people are capable of having sex) is an unhealthy one. What is considered to be a sexless relationship? Where a couple have sex no more than

10-15 times a year.

Sex is a physical way married couples are able to not only express their love for one another, but their desire, appreciate and need for closeness

too. Also, sex comes with a ton of health benefits like less stress, stronger immunity, and more energy. 

Married people who have a consistent sex life tend to have a

healthier and happier relationship all the way around.

You might’ve heard that things like finances, infidelity and outgrowing one another are causes for divorce. Guess what another one is? Boredom. 

That’s right. A huge mistake that some couples

make is putting a ton of effort, energy and planning into dating one another and then dropping the ball on making things fresh, exciting and new after marriage. 

Spend a

weekend in a local hotel room. Go on a getaway out of the blue. Even cook your partner’s favorite dish and take it to work or leave a note in

their car. Spontaneity is the spark of passion. Healthy spouses in healthy marriages know this all too well!