Yeah, there’s something sexy about a confident man. Naw, there’s nothing appealing about an arrogant one. When a person’s arrogant, they are self-consumed. They also tend to be selfish and

if you’re paying close attention, they think they are better than everyone else. Including you. Even in the looks department. When you first start dating an arrogant guy, you might

be flattered because you might think “He thinks he looks good, so he must feel the same way about me.” True. But usually that translates into you being nothing more

than a showpiece. And the worst part? Not the only one. Beware girlfriend.

What are toys? Toys are play things. When you’re interested, you give them all kinds of attention. When you’re bored, you move onto something else. You might be back for

the toy you once loved so much or it may stay in the box forever. Get where we’re going with this? Narcissists can be intense in the beginning, but because

they are so into themselves, you might not be able to hold their attention. They really scary thing is if you don’t accept this reality, you could find yourself losing

yourself in order to keep them hanging on. No relationship is EVER worth that. 

He may be charming, but that doesn’t mean he knows how to truly connect with anyone. In fact, a lot of narcissists are afraid of having real relationships---platonic or romantic---because

they’re so busy wanting everyone to think they’re perfect that they don’t want to risk showing their flaws. If he doesn’t have a relationship with his family and doesn’t really

have any friends…it might look like he’s all mysterious ‘n stuff on the surface. But trust us, those waters run deep. Don’t drown in ‘em.

What’s his dating rap sheet? When’s the last time he had a serious girlfriend? Has he ever been in love? What does he think about long-term relationships? This isn’t really

first or second date conversation, but if you’ve been kickin’ it for a while now, unapologetically do some inquiring. If he has no real relationship history to speak of, that’s

kind of a flag. If he snaps at you for asking, that’s definitely one. Plus, he’s probably a hypocrite because chances are, he’s already asked you most of this stuff by

now. (Narcissists also don’t like to share.)

Narcissists are the ultimate puppet masters. That’s nothing for them to feel proud of. If he gives you the silent treatment when you don’t do something he approves of; if

when he does something wrong, he emotionally manipulates you to the point that you’re the one apologizing (ugh!), or if you look up and realize that most of the relationship

is about making him happy even if it’s at your expense, CUT THE STRINGS. We mean that in in the most literal way possible. This includes not having sex with

him. He’ll only keep pulling you back into his web of desire and deception if you do!

This isn’t to say there aren’t good men in the world. Of course there are. But the mind is a powerful thing. If somewhere in the back of your mind

you’re like “This man really seems too good to be true” just remember this. The subconscious mind is (count it) 30,000 times more powerful than the conscious one is. Usually

“too good to be true” really means “I sense I’m being deceived.” Ain't no way you should ignore those vibes! Follow them to see where they lead. Just don’t tell him

about it. Narcissists are notorious for throwing people off trails. Down into rabbit holes. And into an emotional rut. You get it. Just follow your gut instincts and not his

gift for gab. Please girl. Really.