Hopefully, a part of what drew your husband to you was your sense of ambition. If so, you making more money than him may not be the issue. The problem

may lie in him feeling like you being financially secure means that you don’t have enough time to make the relationship a priority; that you don’t really need him. The way

to put his fears to rest is to make plans together. Ones that have nothing to do with work, where you don’t have to talk about money. Just each other.

We all want to feel irreplaceable in our relationships. Quality time can help to put your husband’s mind at ease.

Different couples have different views on whether or not it’s a good idea to have separate or joint bank accounts. Our personal opinion is this: You’re not roommates. You’re a

lot more than that. So, even if you do have separate accounts, try and have at least one that is joint. It could be for vacations, retirement or to make

a big purchase that both of you want. By having you both put money into the account, your husband can feel like he is contributing just as much as you

are to some area of your relational future.

Money isn’t everything. Not even close. Success is about having plans and goals and reaching them. That’s going to vary from person to person, but it’s important to support your

husband as he supports you in your endeavors. He might be a teacher while you’re a CEO. But if he feels like you are genuinely interested in and excited for

him, that can take some of the pressure off of the differences in your paychecks.

If you’re always at a business meeting, if you’re constantly canceling dates, if your sex life is plummeting because you’re busy finishing up a project---your husband is definitely going to

start resenting your career path. Not because of your income, but because of how much you are investing into everything but your relationship. Quality time is extremely important. Don’t let

anything take precedence over it.

Sometimes, no one can predict how much finances can affect a relationship until it becomes an actual issue. For instance, if you were working a part-time job when you first

got married or you were in school and now you’re making six-figures, that totally change the dynamic of things in a myriad of ways. If you feel like it has disconnected

the two of you, it’s OK to speak with a counselor. We recommend it. They may be able to offer tools on how to share what you both are feeling, the

fears you both may be having and what you can do to bring peace of mind to the situation.

Keeping all of this in mind, never apologize for your success. It’s to be commended and a good husband is going to know that. Just remember that communication is key.

It’s important to keep the lines of communication open so that you both can share your thoughts, ask questions and address issues as they arise. If you both know that

nothing comes before the two of you, that alone may resolve any financial insecurities before they arise.