How do you know if he’s taking you for granted or not? That’s kind of the giveaway. If you have to ask, he probably is. When a guy is totally

into you, he puts forth effort into making sure that you know it. Not just on special occasions. Not just because you’ve pitched a fit. You’re on his mind, he

thinks you’re special and one way or another, he’s going to make sure that you know it. Sometimes in big ways, sometimes in small ways. But every single day, you’ll

feel appreciated. If you don’t. Ugh.

Does he never introduce you to his family or friends? Does he flirt with other girls right in front of your face? Does he take calls (and stay on the

line) while you’re on dates? Does he makes jokes about your looks or appearance, all the while calling it “harmless fun” (umm, it’s not)? Does he cause you to question

your self-worth because he doesn’t treat you as well as your friends’ boyfriends do? All of these are blaring examples of disrespect! And don’t even get us on if he

calls you mean names. That’s the ultimate no-no and license to give him his walking papers! RIGHT. NOW.

Women are naturally nurturing. We’re pretty intuitive too. This means that when it comes to being proactive about meeting needs---and doing a pretty thorough job of it---we’re usually surpassing the

fellas. That doesn’t give your guy license to neglect you. You need to verbalize what your needs actually are. But once you do, if they’re not being met, that’s his

way of saying it’s not a priority to him. If you’ve had this conversation more than three times, you really need to ask yourself how you’re benefiting from being with

him.

If you’re sad more than you’re happy, and you’ve been feeling this way for months now, talk it out and give it about one more month. If there’s no change,

end it. Life’s too short to be anything but emotionally radiant and satisfied. Besides, if you’re not feeling good in the relationship, there might be something going on behind the

scenes that you can’t quite put your finger on; you just know it’s not good. Our emotions have a funny way of sending up smoke signals. Don’t be afraid to

trust your feelings.

Nobody’s saying it’s time to walk down the aisle, but quite frankly, stagnant water stinks. Depending on how old you are, how long you’ve been together and what you want to

do with your life, engagement/marriage may not need to be in your near future. But every relationship needs to show signs of moving forward, even if it’s baby steps. Ask

your boyfriend what he sees for your future. If he has no plans or intentions of making some, bounce. You’re too precious to not be handled with care. If he

wants to keep you, he’ll think beyond the here and now. If he doesn’t…he won’t.