When someone’s NOT on your mind, they don’t tend to come up. Because you’re not thinking about them. That’s why this point is a dead giveaway. You might need to

enlist a few of your friends to be your sounding board for this point, but if they tell you that you can somehow find a way to compare your ex

to the tree in your front yard, yeah…you’re probably not over him.

There’s good and bad to social media. One of the downsides is it makes it possible for your to semi-stalk pretty much anyone you want to. Including your ex. The

problem with this is you’ll never ever really get over him if you’re constantly seeing who he’s taking pictures with on Instagram or checking his relational status on Facebook. Or

worse, dropping him DMs on Twitter. Here’s the test: go on a social media fast for a few days. If you feel like you’re about to die, you’ve got a

bigger problem than trolling your ex (social media addiction is real in these streets!). But if you return and you don’t feel the dire need to look him

up every 15 minutes, smile. You’re making progress!

When you date someone who knows your friends, the breakup basically involves them too. Play fair, though. A friend of yours remaining cool with your ex isn’t an act of

disloyalty unless your ex did something that even they find to be cruel. This isn’t kindergarten. No one should be expected to pick sides once the relationship is done. If

you beg to differ, you might not want to admit it, but you’re not over him.

Shoot, did I leave my phone charger at your house? Crap, how about my pink lipstick? Oh, the games we play sometimes! If you’re waking up each day looking for

reasons to “reach out”, this is also a red flag. People who aren’t together anymore don’t come up with reasons (that are more like excuses) to talk every day. If

they were doing that, they’d probably still be together!

You need time to heal and please do. Far too many people believe the hype that by hurrying up and getting into another relationship, they’re better equipped to move on.

But if it’s been a couple of months, a hottie asks you out and you turn him down?! What’s the deal? Chances are, your ex has already dated at least

one another person by now. Don’t live in the past. Get on with the possibilities of your dating future!

On the other hand, if the two of you break up on Thursday and you’re on a date Friday night, that’s not good either. If you’re honest with yourself, you’re

probably using the poor fella and he deserves better. Go out with the girls instead. It’s more fun to vent with them anyway. Then come home and watch some chick

flicks, paint your nails and have a bubble bath. Come Monday, you should start feeling better---about moving on.