When you met him, it was mostly T-shirts, expensive jeans and sneaks. And you loved it. Now it’s business suits. Or maybe a change in cologne. Or he’s growing out---or cutting

off---his facial hair. Or he’s spending extra time in the gym. Listen, don’t take this as an automatic clue that he’s cheating. Maybe he’s just ready for a change, and if

so, good for him. But if you’ve been with him for a while and all of a sudden, there are big physical transitions without any warning or explanations, just keep that filed

away in the back of your mind. Especially if the following other things are happening too.

Not his appetite at the dinner table. His sexual appetite. If he’s “not in the mood” all of a sudden when his libido used to have you beat by a long

mile, or if he has all of these new things he wants to try and you’re wondering where all of the newfound creativity has come from, yeah…don’t sleep on that.

New women bring with them new energy---and experiences.

It used to be that he couldn’t wait to get home from work. Now he has to do tons of overtime or he’s even decided to pick up a second

job. Plus, when you call, you get pushed to voice mail and even on the weekends, he’s got a ton work-related stuff to do. Ambition is one thing, but make

sure there’s some money to show for it. Besides, being at work shouldn’t mean that he can’t return a text or that you can’t know where he’s working at. The

vaguer the details, the more suspect the whole “I’m working more” explanation seems.

Do you feel like the two of you are disconnected? He doesn’t talk as much. He doesn’t want to be as affectionate as he used to. And worse, when you

ask him about it, he’s all defensive. Sometimes that’s a sign of guilt. Unfortunately, not always enough guilt to break it off with the side chick, but enough to let you

know that there probably is one.

A wise man once said that men are pretty simple. “Feed us, freak us, need us.” The moral to the story? If he’s going into elaborate details about his whereabouts

(thou doth protest too much), or he’s the opposite end of the spectrum and so grey that you don’t understand what he’s been up to…something’s not right. Keeping secrets takes

a lot of energy. Most honest men don’t want to jump through those kinds of hoops.

Bonus round. What if he’s the guy who never bought you flowers, wanted to dance in the kitchen when your favorite song comes on or take your face in his

hands as he professes his love for you, but now that’s ALL he’s doing? Sometimes guilt manifests in this cryptic fashion too. He’s being overly-attentive to make up for his shadiness.

Again, don’t automatically assume he’s cheating, but do keep tabs on the times when you’re getting this kind of attention. Is it right when he gets home after being late?

Is it while you’re asking questions that make him uncomfortable? Is it after he turned you down for sex the night before? Figuring out if you’re sharing your man with

someone else is like a real-life game of connect the dots. Don’t harp on one thing. But do look at all of these clues to see if it’s creating a

bigger picture.