First, practice talking a little dirty. The training wheels version of dirty talk is sexting, so it's a great way to start. Again, it might feel a little weird at

first, but it definitely feels better than actually saying it out loud. After a few texts, you'll find the things that feel more natural to say. Hey, you might start really

getting into it!

Also, a guy is happy to get a sext at any hour, so it's a very easy way to bring up new things you want to try.

If you're too embarrassed to ever look at sex advice (if that's true, I commend you for sticking around this article so long), it's going to be hard to be more

sexually assertive. Now, that doesn't mean you need to start going to town on porn 24/7. Just treat this like a research project. There are lots of books and websites aimed

at women to help you with your sexual needs. Try to find a position that seems appealing to you, rather than something you think your man will like.

Do not fake orgasms! Don't do it! It makes the guy think he's doing something good when he's not. So, it'll make it harder for him to change course when you

finally get sick of pretending.

A thing you can fake? Balls. Well, maybe balls isn't the right term here, but it's perfectly okay to pretend like you're a super confident sex

goddess when you're in bed. Consider it role play. 

Maybe your shyness comes from a bad experience in the past. Girl, you can let that go. Any guy that's going to be mean and criticize a girl in bed is

a real piece of shit. Also, it was most definitely his fault you weren't having a good time, so go ahead and kiss his lame ass penis goodbye. Don't literally

kiss his penis, but...you know what we mean.

As girls, a lot of times we worry way too much about our dudes. Will he like this, is he bored with this, does this feel good to him? Look, he's

a guy, he likes it and is just happy to be putting his dick into something other than his hand.

It's perfectly okay to think about yourself in bed. When

you put the focus on what you like rather than trying to figure out what he'll like, you'll start feeling less self conscious. Because no matter what you do, you can't

read his mind and know exactly what he'll love. But you know exactly what you like, so go after it.

You can't expect to just transform into a sex goddess overnight!

Start with sexting. Then, read a little more about new things to try. Then, start feeling comfortable talking in

person with your partner. Before you know it, you'll be perfectly confident in and out of bed.

To be clear, this doesn't mean you'll become a sex obsessed woman who has

to try every sensual thing under the sun. We just want you to feel comfortable in whatever kind of sexual life you choose.