Even the people who love the heck out of their job, they look forward to the end of the day so that they can get home and get some rest. If

your man is spending more and more time away from the house, claiming that it’s for work purposes, that could be true. But peep how often it happens and don’t

be afraid to ask if he’s working alone. Also pay attention to if he’s available while he’s “working”. If he typically answers the phone during the day, he should be

just as willing to do so at night. If not…what’s up with that?

Depending on the type of work that your man does, it’s not totally off the wall that a co-worker will ring him after business hours. Again, look for patterns. If

he’s never really had that happen before, why has it suddenly started? If it’s innocent, then he’ll explain that it’s because of a new co-worker he’s helping out or a new

project he and she are working on. Also pay attention to how often she calls and how late. Any respectable person is going to know that blowing up a married man’s

cell phone all hours of the night is inappropriate. Some things really can wait until the next day. A woman who doesn’t use discretion, well. Yeah.

No man wants to feel like he can’t breathe. And by that we mean that he can’t have relationships with people at work. We’re not saying to suffocate or interrogate him.

Hopefully there is trust between the two of you, making that totally unnecessary. What we are saying is if you start to notice some changes to his schedule or a particular

name keeps coming up that is new to you, you’re well within your rights to say “Who’s that?” If he gets defensive, take note. He shouldn’t.

You decide to surprise him for lunch and he’s out with her. You call the office phone and the receptionist says he’s running errands for a great part of the

day. You ring his cell and he texts back that he’s busy and he’ll get back. Only…he doesn’t. You’re his wife. You’re a priority that trumps any “work wife”. Nothing

is so important that he can’t be reachable, especially if it’s happening all of a sudden. Don’t let that slide. Bring it to his attention.

What if none of these things are happening, but you two are catching up on the day and he mentions that he told her about the fight the two of

you had that morning? Or he shares the advice that she offered about how to handle a financial issue you’re having? Why does she need to know that? The thing

about a work wife is that it’s not always the sign of an affair on the horizon, but more times than not, it is the sign of boundaries being crossed.

Casual conversation is cool, but by no means should she become the uninvited mediator in your relationship. AT ALL.

If everything is on the up and up, here’s a clear sign. Whenever she’s in your presence, he will be quick to introduce you (or make sure the two of

you get a chance to speak) and she’ll give you the utmost respect. Eye contact. Acknowledgement of your position. Open to anything you’d like to know. If she’s avoiding you

at all cost, even if your husband is innocent in it all, that could be the indication of a crush. Talk to him about it, so that he can handle

things accordingly. And by all means, encourage him to refer to her by her actual name. Not a pet name like “work wife”, whether it’s in or out of your

presence.