Not everyone knows the path they're headed on, but does the person you're with have short and long term goals? Do they job-hop, or have any regular commitments, even if

it's a daily trip to the gym, watering household plants, or mentoring a child? If they haven't committed to anything, chances are they won't commit to you, and ultimately, nothing

else will matter; they could be perfect for you, but they first need to be able to say, "there is something in my life that may not always be convenient,

but I am dedicated to overcoming that discomfort because it matters to me."

Take a look at how you spend weekends, or if together, how you did before you each got together. Do you volunteer at the local food bank and he smokes weed all

day? Does he attend professional development conferences or mixers, and you prefer some quality beach time? It's fine to have different interests, but take a look at the underlying things you value,

expressed in how you spend your time. When you're engaging in activities together, do you both get mutual, deep enjoyment from the things you're doing?

Do they hold your hand, look at you with a genuine smile and praise your accomplishments, and treat you like a person they not only love or could love, bur

respect and like? If you're feeling like they're stone cold and you're constantly waiting for them to thaw out to have a conversation, or you're thirsty for a warm hug

greeting, maybe they're not that into you, or perhaps they need to take time for self love and care to have reserves to share with you.

Sometimes you can have one or the other, but it's crucial to have both. You can have your cake and eat it too! Do you feel a spark when you

kiss him, or at the very least when he's inside of you? If someone close to you passed away, would he understand whether you'd prefer that he hold you as

you cry, or give you space and leave a love note until you're ready to get together again? It's okay to defy the norm of how other couples handle sex, differences

or hardship, but you've got to be, or be willing to be, on the same page.

Being conscientious, or caring about how your actions or lack of actions affect another person is one of the most positive indicators of relational success and endurance. It means

they're more likely to consider your feelings, and be open to talking it out when things don't go as planned, or get rough in your relationship and will at least

try to work through differences before even thinking about throwing in the towel.

Sure, you're a whole person on your own, with a lot going for you, and you may not "need" another person, but hey, if they're coming along for the ride,

what purpose are they serving in your life? Do you feel happy around them? Do they fit into your broader life filled with family, other relationships and goals? If you

cringe at the thought of being with them, feel as though you're giving too much of yourself, or simply better off without them, perhaps you are. Your intuition knows. Listen to what

it has to tell you.