Did you know that foreplay, on average, lasts less than five minutes? FIVE MINUTES. That’s like…three commercials. Yeah, we’re not impressed. 

There are a few reasons why so many couples

end up in this quickie rut. It may be because they are tired and don’t feel like investing much more time than that. It could be that foreplay has never

been something that they’ve tried to master. A bigger point is that sometimes when you know what works, you choose to not take the scenic route. 

But good sex is

not just about the sex itself. It’s about what leads up to it. If you want to build up anticipation---which always leads to better orgasms---at least tack on a couple

of more minutes. Five commercials’ worth at least... and good ones at that!

He’s gonna kiss my neck. Then he’s gonna moan. Then he’s gonna try to figure out how to unhook my bra for the billionth time. Sigh. 

Is that what’s running

through your mind? Every time? That’s not good! Think about your first kiss with your partner. How did it make you feel? There’s something about first times. Other times are good---great

even---but when you don’t really know what to expect for sure, that can be the BIGGEST turn-on. If the foreplay and sex are basically reruns, it’s time to switch it

up. Never let ‘em know your every move.

Sex should totally involve all five senses. Hearing included! If neither of you have much to say, at least try and get a moan or two out. Otherwise, it’s just awkward

silence and neither of you really know what’s working---and what’s not. 

And look, if you’re hesitant because you’re self-conscious about what to say, don’t be. In the heat of passion,

you could yell out “The cat just clawed me” and it’s gonna sound hot!

How much time do you spend kissing? If it’s not a lot, then do it some more. A lot more. Kissing triggers the same hormone that orgasms do: oxytocin. It makes

you feel more desired, more connected and that always makes for a better sexual experience. And please, don’t just stick to the mouth. Kissing other, umm, areas can be real

triggers. Click here for where men like to be kissed. Tell your man to read this and click here for where you (probably) do.

There’s nothing worse than trying to cram in everything that you know about sex in under two minutes. Some couples make this mistake too, even when it comes to foreplay. 

What is the rush?! If you feel like you need to hurry up, maybe you should wait. You want to give each other enough time to really enjoy what you

both are doing. Hopping from spot to spot is not sexy. It’s annoying.

Why does foreplay OR sex always have to be in the bedroom? It doesn’t. And shouldn’t. Your man could be kissing you passionately in the car, you could be sucking his fingers

in a restaurant (trust us, you should try it)---creating passion out of the bluecan lead to some pretty hot sex... on your couch or kitchen floor.

Don’t make the mistake of

always getting things started where you sleep. Sometimes, that’s the best way to get your partner dozing off. Get creative. Take your time. Have a ball! Girl, that’s what foreplay

is for.