Some say you have to see where you came from to see where you are going. But what about when that refection turns into rumination? Rumination is less effective because rather

than allowing you to learn, grow, and move on, it stops you in your tracks and perpetuates feelings that bring you down. So make it a point to look back,

but not for longer than you need to to internalize a lesson. What happened to you doesn't need to be indicative of what your future can bring. Practice the art of

speaking about a "bad" thing once or twice, and then removing it from your list of things to bring up to friends or family, allowing for a refreshed outlook.

There are people who always seem to rise above the hard stuff, and are so happy, you'd never know what battles they've fought in their lifetime. What makes them a

winner? Their ability to see the setback as temporary, and a catalyst for a greater developed internal strength. It's not about what happens to you, but rather, the perspective you

take. Try journaling to get to the root of your negative feelings so that you can begin to distance yourself from it, lesson in tow. 

There are plenty of easy/quick fixes out there to life's problems: a few drinks, a 5-finger-discount, and romp with someone you don't know, or even the decision to sit on

the couch instead of attending that event. Don't let yourself willingly be robbed of the things you truly want. If you settle for a solution that is less-than-enduring, you'll only

have the same issue revisit until you try a more lasting approach. Think about the times you've made decisions that left you feeling good for a moment, but worse later

on? What are steps you can take to ensure you engage in more difficult, but ultimately worthwhile behaviors that build you up?

Do you strive for the corner office or have the latest and greatest gadget at any personal expense? Take a moment to contemplate what you want out of life on a

deeper level, and write down a few ways that you can get those relationships or things into your life. If feeling connected makes you feel happy, you can begin to

host events at your home to bring people together.

What makes a person toxic? They could be family, friends, or coworkers with the best intentions, but with the effect of making you feel like you're not good enough, or that

you're too good and should really tone down your ambition. When you spend time with people this week, make note of how you feel after a conversation with each person.

Do you feel drained, apathetic, or down? Distance yourself from the toxicity of that relationship. Do you feel uplifted, motivated and vibrant? Get some more of that in your life!