As a playa, as a man even, you've done some unspeakable things. And if you've done them right, chances are your life has not been a damn secret. The first

step to changing which you have to do in order to find love, is owning your s***. Look at the man in the mirror. That's your competition. You ready, homie?

#KingsSeekQueens

Most people are successful because they're good at what they do...and because they are consistent. If you want a chick...or anyone for that matter...to take you seriously, you must consistently

demonstrate that you are worthy of trust. You can say you want real love all day, but if your player ways are speaking on your behalf, no one will believe

you. And yes, this includes what you post on your social. That's the first thing a new interest checks. #JustSayin

C'mon son! We're not hatin' the playa...just tryna to help you up your game. We mean the women that you aren't interested in building with. While dating is subjective, make

sure that you date with intent. Forgot so soon? In this case, it's to find real love...stay with us here. If you ain't interested, let the side chick go. You've

done enough with "in the meantime" chicks. #NextLevel

Anyone can declare that they're serious about finding love, but unless you practice what you preach, it ain't gonna happen. Truth is, you've got a hell of a past that

is standing in your way, and unless you do a 360, you may as well remain a player.

Why do you want love? Are you just tired of being a ladies man for the minute...or is this a long term change you're after? If you cannot come up

with a solid answer that will drive your commitment to change, pump your brakes home. You might be headed right back or lose interest once you get what you want.

Think long and hard about your decision before you dive head first.

Absolutely nothing about this will be easy. Like any habit, you will go through withdrawals, and often wonder why you choose to sign up for this sh**. You are going

from a lack of commitment to fidelity. You need to be centered. 

Be prepared for them not to be supportive. Honestly, it just comes with the territory. Understand that they won't believe you. Which means they will give you the most grief.

You know how the homies are. It's all part of the process. Eventually, if you're serious, they will come around. They always do. 

It's critical to keep your mind occupied to prevent you from backtracking. Workout, read, heck even visit your grandma more. Keep a calendar full of activities so you do not

end up with a bed full of women. You know what they say about idle minds...LOL. Stay focused bruh!

You will backslide. But even diehard playas have turned in their playa cards when the time was right. You got this! But like every major change (because that is what

this is) don't get discouraged. Being a one-woman man ain't for everyone...but when you get to that next level and find the woman of your dreams....well, you already know! #RelationshipGoals