Whether you're a mother or not, you’re a woman and society has taught you to be a caretaker. Basically we innately put others before ourselves. So when it comes to sex,

we need to put ourselves in the spotlight in order to calm down and let our guards down. Make sure you’re the one in the spotlight next time, and see

if that helps get your juices flowing.

Men can just go based on a mountain that looks like a pair of boobs. Us? It sometimes takes a little, or a lot, more. Reading an erotic novel, taking

a sexy vacation or introducing new toys into the bedroom could really help spice your life up.

Women rarely ask themselves what turns them on. Think about that, hell - write a list. Oh and while you’re at it, make sure to jot down what definitely turns

you off. Then talk about them with your partner. If you don’t make the dos and don’ts obvious, they may never know.

Make time to pleasure yourself and get in tune with your own body. If you’re not comfortable with your body and how it reacts to pleasure, it’s going to be

hard to get excited when you have someone else in bed.

This isn’t just about hands heading south for a couple minutes before your clothes come off. Try extending the dirty talk, teasing and so forth and so on throughout dinner, or

even during the day via text. Sexting is a great way to get warmed up early, just be sure to double check who you’re sending it too!

Many women start to lose a little interest when sex becomes the same old thing. When they’re expected to do it every Wednesday night, there’s nothing really special to it.

Their partners should try and be more spontaneous to get their girl into it again.