Contrary to popular belief, gossip isn’t always untrue. It's telling business…that’s none of your business. 

If most of us were real with ourselves, we’d admit that we’re nosy. Gossip blogs and

magazines wouldn’t exist if we weren’t. We tend to talk about other people’s business to either feel better about ourselves or to deflect from what we have going on..or don’t have going on. 

Using someone else’s business as a coping mechanism for how we handle our own? Could there be anything more insecure than that?! Probably not.

You know what backhanded compliments are because you’ve probably handed out one within the past couple of months: “Girl, you would be so cute…if you lost a couple of pounds” or “I

LOVE that dress. You think it would look a little better on me?” or  “He’s a doll. You sure he’s not seeing anyone else?” 

A confident woman can give a

compliment. Period. An insecure woman is a slight hater so there has to be some “extra” along with it. Which kind of woman are you?

Being agreeable can sometimes make you look a little crazy. No one is saying that you should be combative or contrary, just to go against the grain. But if you’re

always changing your mind so that you won’t cause conflict, that is not a true representation of who you are. Who cares if people think you’re awesome if they can’t see

the real you?

Have a voice. Those who respect you will respect it. And that can help take your confidence to another level.

Insecure people have a real knack for being moody individuals. We’re thinking it’s because when you’re not really sure about yourself, you’re not sure about much else either — how you

feel, what you want and even what you need. 

If your moods are erratic, don’t look at it as being “just how you are." Ask yourself why you’re not more stable.

The answer to that question can be a real game changer.

Selfish people may not think they're insecure. Oh, but we do. If you’re so worried about giving to others because you think you won’t have enough for yourself, that reeks of

insecurity. A secure person gets how karma works. They understand that what you put out, you get back. If not immediately, eventually. So, they have no problem helping and sharing

with others.

This one is important! People are human. Humans make mistakes. If you’re someone who is not willing to forgive others, could it be that you’re too afraid to be vulnerable enough

to give them another chance? And if that’s the case, is that not a huge insecurity red flag? 

We’re not encouraging you to be a doormat (ironically, that can also

be a sign of being insecure). We’re simply saying you’re not going to be able to be in ANY relationship if you’re expecting people to be perfect or to not EVER

disappoint you or hurt you. 

The strongest of the strong can forgive and they are secure in doing it.