Although you might be thinking that it’s something internal that’s affecting your libido, it could be your body image. 

If you’re worried that your man doesn’t want you like he used

to because there’s “more to love” and a few stretch marks left behind from labor, you might wanna ask him. The truth is, a lot of men find women who

could push a baby out to be super sexy! Especially since it’s something that no man can do. 

But to ease into feeling better about yourself, go lingerie shopping. Pick something out

in your favorite color then something in his. You might be a little fuller now, but don’t look at it as fat. See it as being voluptuous. A curvy woman

is as sensual as they come.

Is your libido tanking because you’re exhausted? Understandable. Chew some peppermint gum. Make yourself a fruit smoothie. Eat a handful of almonds (for the magnesium that’s in them). Put some

citrus essential oil on temples and wrists. Suck on a peppermint stick. Take a 20-minute power nap. Open up your curtains or shades to let some Vitamin D in. 

Just a

little pick me up can give you just enough energy to get some foreplay started. Chances are, once things get to going, you’ll be good.

Another reason why your sex life may be less than stellar is because of how stressed out you are. Something that can help you out is taking a warm bath;

it’s an instant stress reliever. While you’re in there, light some candles, turn on some soft music and have a glass of wine. 

Red wine, that is. The compounds in the

wine help to increase blood flow to your erogenous zone. It can spike up your man’s testosterone levels too. As a bonus, red wine has also been linked to lowering

the risk of depression as well.

Is sex a little on the painful side because you’re not as lubricated as you’d like? No problem. Make your own brand of KY Jelly. All you need are the following

ingredients: ¼ cup of Aloe Vera gel, ¼ cup of flaxseed oil, two opened capsules of Vitamin E and five drops of peppermint oil. Combine and refrigerate. It will be

super slippery and really stimulating.

Another thing that you should consider doing is booking an appointment to see your doctor. Even with all of the suggestions here, you may need some medication to get balance

out your hormones or there could be symptoms of postpartum depression that are lingering behind. Or, you may need to be referred to a counselor; there could be emotional issues

that are being overlooked.

No matter what, DO NOT FAKE ORGASMS. You are doing you and your partner a serious disservice by giving them the impression that you’re satisfied when you’re actually not. You

conceived together, had a baby together and you’ll get through this…together. Faking pleasure only sends mixed signals and can cause you to become resentful overtime.

You went through a lot of changes to get your little one here. There’s no real time limit on how long it will take until you get back to feeling

like your old self, even in the bedroom. Don’t look at this time as having "performance anxiety" so much as it being an opportunity to take things slow, experiment and try a

few new positions—ones that may pleasantly surprise you. 

You’ll get back to feeling like your old sexy self again. Just don’t pressure yourself into getting there. A part of

the fun of sex is the build-up anyway. Right?