It’s kinda crazy how often this flies under the radar because how can you be in a healthy relationship with someone who’s only preoccupied with themselves? We’re thinking it might

be that people don’t know what signs to look for, so here ya go. If he only does what will benefit him. If he spends a ton of time talking

about himself. If he wants you to provide him with support but doesn’t give it in return. If intimacy is all about his pleasure. If you seem to go all

out for special occasions and he barely says “Happy Birthday”. We could go on and on, but you get it. 

Any man who thinks that his needs are top priority and

yours are 5-6 on his list, he’s selfish. Move on.

A reactive man is someone who is always a step behind. BY CHOICE. He makes plans with you, “forgets” and calls to say he’ll make it up. Three times in

a row. It’s your anniversary and he doesn’t plan anything but says you’ll do something special next week (umm, next week is not y’all’s anniversary). He makes promises he doesn’t

keep only to make more promises about the broken promises. At first, it seems like his intentions are good. After a while, you realize that he simply doesn’t have you on

his radar as much as you deserve to be. 

2017 is all about the proactive man---the guy who does things without any prompting on your part. Leave the reactive dude behind.

He seems to like it back there anyway.

A narcissist and a selfish guy are basically stepbrothers when it comes to character traits. The thing that makes it (sometimes) challenging to detect a narcissist off top is because

he seems to be really into you. At first. You feel that way because he’s so into…the chase. Then, once he gets you, he gets bored. That’s because the pursuit

wasn’t about you at all. It was about his ego. Getting you to agree to go out with him (and whatever else) was confirmation that he’s as awesome in his

mind as he thinks he is. 

Oh, and for the record, some other red flags to look out for is a narcissist hoards conversations, exaggerates, is extremely vain, likes to emotionally

manipulate and tends to have a touch of chauvinism---if not straight-up misogyny---to him too.

If you like to casually date, cool. But if next year is the year that you’ve decided that you want to be in something real, solid and lasting avoid the man

who fears commitment. Some signs of this guy is he hates making plans more than 24 hours in advance. His dating history consists of no serious relationships. When you ask

him questions about values, marriage and children, he acts like he doesn’t understand you. He sleeps around, but doesn’t know a thing about emotional intimacy. And he's fluent in the language

of indefinites. 

You know, “probably”, “maybe” and “we’ll see”. If he can’t give you a clear “yes” or “no” about a movie date, let alone anything else, he’s SO a waste of

your time, girl. Next please.

Many women have confused great sex for a good relationship. Don’t be her in 2017. And here’s a tidbit. Don’t automatically assume that just because a man holds it down

in between the sheets that he’s into you. Some guys are about sexually pleasing a woman because it makes them feel good about them. There’s more to you than your

body. Make sure every man you spend time with gets that message loud and clear this coming year.

This isn’t exactly the same as the non-committer, but they do share some similarities. What we mean is the guy who has no plans for his own life. When you

ask him what he wants to accomplish in the next six months, he has a blank look on his face. When you talk about your goals and dreams, he wants

to change the subject to this favorite sitcom or concert he recently checked out. When you bring up where you see yourself in the next two years, he’s like “Girl,

all I’m thinking about is tonight.” (Read the subtext in that, by the way.) 

A man with no plans for himself is a man who has no plans for you. In

2017, you need someone on the same page as you. Drop the jerk and go get it!