A planned out date is not someone calling you at 7:30 asking if you want to hang out in an hour. A planned date means that they reached out, at

least a week beforehand, especially if it’s for a holiday like Valentine’s Day. They are going to tell you what they have in mind so that you can have an

idea of what to wear. And unless it’s a new person and you don’t feel comfortable with them knowing where you live, they are going to offer to pick you

up. If you’ve never had any of this happen to you before, this is what’s officially known as a date. Every gal is worthy of at least one.

This point all depends on how long you’ve been seeing someone. If Valentine’s Day is going to be your first date, the date alone should suffice. If you’re officially dating

or in a relationship, you’re not off-base to expect some flowers and candy or maybe even in a piece of jewelry (not something that breaks the bank; just something that

makes you “ooo” and “ahh” a little). While we’re here, it’s equally as thoughtful to get something for them too. If you want more than a card or “Happy Valentine’s

Day”, lead by example.

Texting is about convenience. But on Valentine’s Day, the one you’re with should want to take things up a notch and go out of their way to let you know

how special you are to them. A “Good Morning, Beautiful” text is sweet to start things off but there should be more correspondence coming your way. At the very least,

a phone call with some words of affirmation. (At the very least!)

Some people, guys especially, play the ultimate version of Hide-n-Seek because of all of the pressure that can come with Valentine’s Day. Not just in a relationship, but financially. Valentine’s Day shouldn’t

be about how much money someone spends, so if they give you something they baked or made, don’t rain on their parade. The thought and additional time put into either earns

them some major bonus points.

If you want to have sex on Valentine’s Day, that needs to be your decision; not their expectation. Any person who is spending time with you on a holiday just

so they can get some tail is someone you don’t need to be with, no matter what time of year it is. 

One way to test out their intentions is to

cancel out anything at your place or theirs and to avoid anything that even remotely implies a hotel reservation. If they still want to spend time with you, they’re a

keeper. If suddenly, they have other plans, well...so do you. This Valentine’s Day and all of the other days to follow too, boo.