“Are you going to call me back? When? You said that last time. But you’re really gonna do it, right?” This is a very minor example of what it means to

be a nag, but hopefully it drives the point home. A person who nags is a person who has controlling tendencies and who wants to be controlled by another person?!

If your immediate response is “I wouldn’t have to nag if he’d just do what I say when I want him to do it”, hate to point out the obvious

but you’ve proven what nagging is all about. It’s a nerve-racking habit. And besides, if you have to annoy someone to get them to do something, is it even worth

it? When it's all said and done, not really.

There really is something to be said for women’s intuition. But never assume that it’s 100 percent fool-proof. If you do, you’re basically saying that you’re always right and no one can say

that. Presuming that you always know what your man is thinking or is up to comes off as arrogant on good day, patronizing on a bad one. No one wants

to be around someone who thinks they can read minds and predict every thought. If you want to know something, ASK HIM. If you’ve already asked, LET HIM ANSWER. If you

don’t take our advice, sooner or later he’s probably gonna say “Since you know what I’m about to do, you probably know I’m about to be done.” Just sayin’.

Forgiveness is a learned skill. It’s a process. Say that your man forgot your birthday last year and it’s coming up again. If you already said that you forgave him,

try and avoid being like “Are we doing something for my birthday or is it going to be a rerun of last year?” A great definition of forgiveness is “Accepting

that the past cannot change.” How would you feel if he constantly brought up your mistakes and missteps? If you both agreed to leave it in the past, be a

woman of your word and do just that.

It is not a man’s job to make you feel good about yourself. A spoken word artist by the name of Rahz once said, “For a woman, a compliment should

be a confirmation, not a revelation.” That’s some good stuff right there! If you’re always dropping hints for a man to tell you how pretty or smart or sexy you

are, not only do you come off as insecure but you rob him of the opportunity to do it all on his own. 

What’s an example of compliment fishing? Texting him

a picture and then having an attitude next time you see him if he doesn’t tell you how fine you are. Did you send it so that he would feel

thought about or so that he would nurse your insecurities? When a woman knows she’s got it going on, her man can only make her feel better, not good about

herself. She’s already got that under control.

If you can’t go a week without going through your man's phone, trolling his social media or asking him about every single person in the world that he knows, you have

a trust issue. That, or you’re a busybody who likes putting your nose all up in his business. Either way, it’s gonna get really old, super fast. 

Just because the two of

you are together, that doesn’t mean he’s not his own person. If you focus on building a solid friendship, you’ll be surprised by just how much he shares with you---without

your prompting or prying. Just remember that no man wants to date a detective (unless that's your true profession). He wants a girlfriend.

“Loving someone to death” is the kind of phrase we use a lot, but just think about it. Who wants to be loved to the point of them dying because

of it? But when you suffocate a man---you’re constantly calling, you never let him spend time alone or with his friends, he can’t even sit on the couch without you

always being all up in his lap---that’s essentially what you are doing. 

Ever heard the saying “Nothing grows in the shade?” Yep. Too much of a good thing is real. Give your man some

space and let him come to you sometimes. It’s a good way to avoid getting on his nerves so that he'll want to shower you with love and affection, without any

pressuring on your part. Amen? Amen.