Do you feel genuine excitement and happiness to have the friends you have in your life? If you find that your mind is always wandering and you'd much rather be

spending your time with a special someone who's exited your life, you're not over your ex.

Which feels closer: the memory of your ex, or the emotion? If you can look back and recall the good times fondly, while not yearning for anything, and also recall

the bad times without becoming enraged, you're on to something. If you find a strong sense of grief, loss, sadness, or anger when his name comes up, or you see her

friend in passing, it means you're not quite over it.

If every romance scene makes you sad at what you no longer have, and every breakup scene brings you back to the scene of the emotional crime that broke your

heart, you're probably not over it. If you can, on the other hand, enjoy a romantic movie, or most parts of it, perhaps you've gained perspective on your lost relationship and

are no longer mourning it.

Do you wonder what it would be like if this Friday night you were going out with them? Or what they're doing with their lives as you awaken on a

lazy Sunday? If you go through your days hoping, wishing, praying, or otherwise thinking you'll probably get back together, you're definitely not over it.

If you're harboring resentment for the one who let you down, even if that someone was yourself, you're not over it yet. When you wake up on any given day

accepting that you and your partner did the best you could, and know deep down that the dissolution was for the very best, then you are that much closer to

being over it.