Where babies come from and how they got there in the first place? That’s general information. You don’t need to wait for dad to get home to talk to your

son about that. Now when should you do it? According to many experts, around the time your child starts to ask questions about the birds and the bees, that’s when

they’re ready to hear age-appropriate answers. Whether that’s 4 or 8.

As your son moves into the preteen years, his body is going to start going through changes. He’ll probably wake up with erections more and peach fuzz will start to

show. He may even have nocturnal emissions (wet dreams). Him wanting to talk to you about that is about the equivalent of a daughter wanting to talk to her dad

about her period. Yeah, leave that up to his father (or male mentor). But don’t forget that he’s probably going to start to find girls more appealing too. That is

where you come in. He needs to hear how to handle crushes and his new feelings from your point of view. You were once the age of some of the

girls he’s taking notice of. Put yourself in those girls' shoes and share with him your thoughts in a way only a woman/mom can.

Men have a tendency to be bottom liners. Whatever their son asks, they are going to answer and leave it at that. For instance, once your son becomes a teenager

and asks questions that sound like he’s thinking about having sex, dad may simply say “Use a condom.” You, on the other hand, know that sex can be an emotional

bond. It can be helpful for both you and your son’s father to provide perspectives on these kinds of issues. Especially since you’ll probably go into more detail.

Speaking of the emotional side, if you weren’t a virgin when you got married (or your first wasn’t who you’re with now), there’s a chance you got your heartbroken by

a sex partner along the way. Your son needs to hear about that. Or, if you went on a date with a guy in high school and you found out

all that he wanted was sex, your son should hear about that too. Sex being oral sex and some girls thinking that will lead to a commitment when that’s the

last thing on a lot of guys’ minds. Again, your lane. The awesome thing about a child having two parents is both can bring different sides to the table. Women

are oftentimes more emotional and that’s not a bad thing. It can help him to become more sensitive, especially to people’s feelings, too.

Sex is about two people coming together. It’s OK---encouraged even---for your child to see you and his father (or his stepfather or some male role model) come together to talk

about certain things with him. He needs to know that no topic is off limits, that you’re both there for him and whatever topics you pass on to the other, it’s

so that he can get the best kind of insight.

Bottom line, yes, it’s OK for moms to talk to their sons about sex. She/you play a powerful role on how

he sees women and sexuality. And that’s a really good thing.