People who really want to be in your life are going to honor the standards you set. Problem is, a lot of us don’t set ‘em from the beginning or

we quietly resent people when we expect them to read our minds. Having a list of what you want in a man can help you to know if someone is

worth the effort, almost from the beginning. 

For instance, if you want someone who respects your time and he’s always showing up late, then you can discuss it with him

and nip things in the bud if it doesn’t change. Or, if you want someone who will respect your decision to wait a while to have sex, you can bring

that up on the second or third date. If he’s not feeling it, you can put him on the “not the one” list and move on with your life. No

harm. No foul.

Have you ever met someone who was SO FINE (and yes, we are screaming it!) that you talk yourself out of some of their not-so-impressive qualities? They’re not the smartest. You

don’t have the same values. They’re inconsiderate of others. But still, they’re fine. 

What if your list has “thoughtful," “kind” and “emotionally mature” on it before even getting to “handsome”? Thanks

to your list, it can keep you focused. Remember, you can always admire “fine” from afar.

A non-commitment phobe. Is that something you want? When you say, “I’m looking for a relationship” and he looks at you like you’re speaking broken English, you can look at

him like...“Check, please.” 

A lot of us waste valuable time on someone who’s not even close to being on the same page with us because we play the figure-it-out-as-you-go game

rather than honestly assessing what we want and being courageous enough to not compromise until we get it. A list helps us to accomplish this.

Say you want a man who wants to get married someday. Then, on the fourth date with a guy that you really like, he says, “I am not the marrying

kind.” What are you going to do with that information? 

If you guys have a lot of fun together, you might not want to totally kick him to the curb. Maybe

put him in the “friend” or “he-might-change-his-mind-over-time” category. What you don’t need to do is emotionally invest to the point of lying to yourself about where he stands. A wish list

can help with the weeding out process in ways you would never imagine.

Almost all of us have at least one friend who swears they're a matchmaker extraordinaire. You can boost up their confidence levels, and decrease your chances of going on a horrible blind date, by

sharing with them your wish list. 

No matter how well someone claims to know you, you know yourself better. They might say, “I have the perfect guy. He’s a budding entrepreneur.”

And you might say, “Yeah, I dated someone who didn’t have a lot of time for me before. I’d prefer someone with a bit more stability and time." That can help put

the brakes on things before they even get started. It can also give your friends a clearer understanding of what you’re looking for so no one is wasting their time.

Similar to a vision board, a Soulmate Wish List can bring a lot of joy to your life because it can give you something to look forward to. He might not

manifest today or next week, but being sure about what you want, and don’t want, can give you the confidence you need to wait, to avoid dating without a purpose and

to keep from getting emotionally involved with dead-ends. 

All that from a wish list? Yep.