In a healthy relationship: You can both share your feelings without fear of being judged or railroaded. There's a mutual level of respect between the two of you - he

can say sorry when he's wrong, and so can you.

In a toxic relationship: All you can do is scream at one another! Neither of you can apologize and your

fights only end because you get tired of shouting, not because you actually sit down and resolve the issue. 

In a healthy relationship: Neither of you talks shit about the other! Even if you're upset with him, you don't call him names behind his back. Your friends might know when he

did something to upset you. But they'd never hear you say how big of a d*** he is. 

In a toxic relationship. He calls you names to your face and

behind your back. And you do the same. 

In a healthy relationship: You like being with each other. But you don't need to spend all your time together. He has his own life, and so do you! 

In a

toxic relationship: You guys are either always together or always apart. There's no in between.

In a healthy relationship: You both leave your phones unattended. You don't feel the need to go through his phone, and he doesn't feel the need to go through yours. There's

a mutual trust between the both of you.

In a toxic relationship: Both of you are incredibly jealous. You are constantly checking his phone and emails. And he's always asking your

friends what you're doing when he's not there. There's no trust between the two of you.

In a healthy relationship: You can tell each other anything! He knows every embarrassing detail of the Spring Break trip you took when you were 18. And you know about

that woman who hit on him at the bar last weekend.

In a toxic relationship: You keep secrets from him and he definitely keeps secrets from you. 

In a healthy relationship: The power is equally divided between the both of you.

In a toxic relationship: One of you clearly has more power than the other. And the person

who has all the power, happily controls every situation!

In a healthy relationship: You might act a little different when you're with your friends, compared to when you're with your man. But he acts different around his friends, too. It's

natural. What's important is that your personalities and demeanor stay the same and you don't shut each other out when you are around friends.

In a toxic relationship: You both act

fake and phony when you're with each other. He doesn't know the real you, and you don't know the real him.