It's nice to be in control. That's what cowgirl and reverse cowgirl offer. While you're in cowgirl, don't so much think about the joys of bouncing up and down, or having him

pump into you. Well... go ahead and do that because it's fantastic, but then when you're fully ready to take over, think more about grinding.

You want your man's penis

to be hitting your g-spot, you know that seemingly elusive spot that's simply along your vaginal front wall. Experiment with him, communicate together, finding a rhythm that works and sticking with

it. With both his hands free maybe you want him to spank you, or better just rub your clit with his thumb as he grinds on you.

If it's not

hitting the spot (pun intended), then try turning around to Reverse Cowgirl and see if that helps. He might have trouble doing a reach-around on your clit but why don't

you try pleasuring that yourself, it's a big turn-on for lots of guys.

It's called the countertop, but that doesn't mean you have to screw on the countertop (the edge of a bed can work too). Though maybe you bang on the counter, as

doing it in the kitchen or on some random table can certainly add to the thrill, which can add to the mind-blowing orgasm.

The idea behind this position and the

reason it works so well is the deep penetration. Honestly you'll really feel it in this position, so be mindful and talk if you happen to be dating a man

who is well-endowed - he could hurt you (and not in the good way)!

This penetration can of course be combined with clitoral stimulation through only minimal coordination. either you

put your legs on his shoulders, on his torso, or maybe wrap them around his waist. It's all good, it's all hot.

We like this one because it sounds incredibly unsexy. Imagine characters from 50 Shades of Grey talking this one out in the bedroom, like "hey Dorian there's this  thing I've always wanted to

try..."

"Oh yeah Anastasia?" As he trails his knowing finger between your breast, "what is it?"

"It's the Coital Alignment Technique, acronym is C.A.T. for short."

"...Uh I'm going back to

Mrs. Robinson."

Seriously though, you guys should try this one. Pretty much the only sex position invented by scientists, which at the very least is hilarious to think about. This

one is not about deep penetration, but rather clitoral stimulation. The basic tenet behind it's development is that most of the nerve endings to achieve orgasm are located in the first two

inches of the vagina.

How it works is you put your legs together. He enters you "riding high" against your clitoris. Instead of thrusting back and forth (from heels to

head) you do a grinding together, he grinds down and you grind up.

It's not exactly sex that you'd see in a porno, and if you're trying to do burn some

serious calories it's certainly nothing that we would call sexercise. Instead this position takes a lot of communication, probably multiple attempts. It is great for lovers, especially those that want

to experiment with tantric sex or longer sessions. If we've piqued your interest, check out this website devoted to the subject.

Getting back to some more "porno-style" positions, there's none better than doggy style. This position has a lot of variety built in, angles that you can adjust, whether your spread

your knees more, arch your back, or go from your hands to your knees. For a position that is typically very male dominant, this experimentation can be a good way

to take back some of that control  - that is unless of course him controlling you is something you're into ;)

Another great variation to try in this position is using

one of your most robust pillows (or two) and putting it under your waist. Maybe you and your lover will be going at it so hard that you fall down onto

the bed - with a pillow the deep penetrative angles from doggy style will still be there, and you (or your hubby) can also possibly better rub your clitoris.

This position is hot, and definitely part of that is because it's so unique. You have him enter you and he raises his leg, then turn your body at an

angle so that you're straddling his raised leg. You control the rhythm as he lays there and watches you in all your glory, grinding down and against his leg. This

is that simultaneous deep and clitoral stimulation we talked about.

In all these positions (and especially this one), communication is so fundamental. You're not always going to get it right the

first time, maybe it's a bit awkward or maybe it's a bit uncomfortable. Maybe you get a leg cramp, who knows... and quite frankly who cares. These fun little trials and

tribulations can help you and your lover learn more about the other, and even more about yourselves.

Have fun, and remember to thank us later.