You had a solid texting stream going to keep momentum in between dates, and it suddenly stopped. You feel like he must be busy, or she must have thought she

replied but forgot to hit "send." The fact of the matter is, somebody has to step it up in case either scenario applies, and in order to get the answer

you seek and move on, the person who initiates the next contact will likely be you. 

1. If he was the last one to text: write a response or question,

and then stop texting

2. If you were the last to text: write one more innocent follow-up question or comment, and then stop texting

If you don't hear back from them in a reasonable amount of time, think one day (7 if your generous), then it's time to begin the process of ridding your life

of this person who has clearly exhibited that he/she has done the same for you. This means going to social media, your phone, and even real life, and doing some

spring cleaning of what remains of the ghost so you can let them go. Tis the season to treat ghosts like what they are: not present and not worthy of

your precious time.

Know that you did all that you could, but some people lack emotional depth and a comfort with confrontation to tell you that they have moved on. Whether you went

on 2 dates or 200, some people will not give you the respect you deserve by properly saying "goodbye," but in this case, actions speak louder than words. Thank goodness

for the friends who are always by your side.

If you've done all of the above, and it's been a few weeks, and you can't get them off your mind, go ahead and send one last text that reads:

"Hey

___, It's been a while. Just wondering from your perspective where things dropped off."

Know that best case scenario is you get some sort of reply, likely with an excuse

about being busy without plans to meet back up again. The worst case? A whole lot of nada. Your text was straight forward and gave them the opportunity to reply,

so once this one is sent, it's really time to move along.

So it's been a few days, weeks, or months, since that last communication. Maybe you still think of them, or wonder what happened, but instead of focusing on the multitude of

"what ifs" how about the one thing that is certain: your awesomeness! You sent one last text for good measure, have continued to invest in yourself and your friendships. Whether

someone stays or goes, you know that you're ready for someone who will treat you right, and communicate how they feel about your connection, because there's no way you'd settle

for less.