Don't hide from your spouse if you are stuck in a sexless marriage. The first step is being open about the issue. Maybe it's embarrassing to bring up, but if

you don't start talking about it the problem, it is never going to change. You may be surprised to find out that you are both very hurt from the lack of

intimacy and you both are wishing things would change. Talking about the lack of sex in your marriage is going to help build a trust where you can communicate through

the mending of your sexual relationship as well! Communication is always key.

Have you just been super busy lately? Do you have built up anger about other parts of your life? Are you upset at each other for reasons besides the sex and haven't spoke about it?

Once you are open with each other about acknowledging the lack of sex in your life and the want to change then you can start pinpointing bigger problems! This is why building the

trust to talk about the lack of sex is important, because from now on communication is vital to fixing the problem.

With full consent of both parties, offer each other massages, hug each other as often as possible, and hold hands on walks-- any way you can touch each other to build

up sexual tension. Cuddle in bed at night and tease each other. Fixing a sexless marriage takes baby steps. The intimacy you once had will spark memories with this body contact, and

hopefully you'll become more intimate. 

Once you start beginning to have sex again, start slow. Be vocal in bed about what you want to do and what you like. If you are both open about your

sexual desires then your sexual life may flourish. Be considerate of your spouse and make sure that they are enjoying the sex as well. Communication during sex is going to

lead for a healthy and enjoyable sex life. After sex, talk about what you liked and what you thought could be improved. 

There are studies upon studies that show that pornography can be harmful and even fatal for a marriage. Pornography is known to set unrealistic expectations for sex, and research has

shown a direct link between pornography addiction and a decrease in sexual intimacy. Pornography also leads to arguments in marriage as one or both of those in the marriage may

feel betrayed. If you want to boost your sexual drive, spend your only sexual time with your spouse, and make sure they are doing the same. 

If your sexual life does not improve by taking steps on your own to work on the issue, it may be important to have a professional step in and help.

Seeing a marriage counselor may be vital to keeping your marriage healthy, especially if there are deep rooted issues behind the sexless spell that you may be having. Seeing a

marriage counselor is nothing to be ashamed of.  Just like you'd go to a doctor when you have the flu, going to a marriage counselor when you feel you are

in over your head with a marital problem will help keep your relationship healthy.