Yes, he bought you the best gift ever for your birthday. Last year. And yes, he was so sweet when he called your mom out of the blue when you

first met. Six months before that. But what about that time he flirted with your best friend? Or how about the time he pushed you to voicemail for the entire

weekend and then had some lame excuse about his battery being dead? Three weekends in a row. Oh, and let’s not forget how he totally dropped the ball on you New

Year’s Eve. This might not be exactly what happened to you, but we think you get the point we’re trying to make. When you miss someone, you usually want to

only remember the good stuff. But to be fair to your own feelings, don’t conveniently overlook the bad, OK? All of it paints the picture you need to see.

If you love yourself, there’s no need to be scared to be alone. We’re not saying that it’s not cool to have a date on the weekends or someone to

brag about to your friends. We’re saying that being by yourself beats settling for a man who doesn’t treat you like you deserve on any day of the week. If

you keep going back to your ex because you don’t want to be single, that’s not a good enough reason. And to tell you the truth, it’s also a sign

that single is probably exactly what you need to be right now.

Here’s why it’s a good idea to think long and hard before even getting into a relationship with someone. If you were friends first, it’s gonna alter the friendship dynamic.

That’s what happens when feelings and intimacy come into play. Not to say that exes can’t be friends, but it’s not as easy as you might think. Unfortunately, if you’re returning

to your ex to try and rekindle the friendship, 8 times out of 10 you’re gonna play yourself. Can you really listen to him talk about other girls? Do you

really want to give him advice about the next chick? Are you sure you’re not gonna feel like he’s cheating on you when he moves on? If you can’t be

honest with yourself about these questions, leave dude alone. It will keep the drama down. On both sides.

Sometimes love creates tunnel vision. When you’ve been in a relationship with someone for a while, all you can really think about is them. And when it ends, for a

while, they’re still the only one running through your mind. But girl, “there’s other fish in the sea” is not some corny line from a movie. It’s 100 percent the

truth. The only way you’re going to see that is if you get him out of your way. Sometimes we’re holding on so tightly to the past that the future

can squeeze in. Remember that.

You are not gonna get over your ex, talking, texting and definitely sexing him. STOP IT. To drive the point home, a gross analogy. When you vomit something up, no

matter how good it tasted when you first ate it, that’s your body’s way of telling you something’s not right. Your ex is the vomit in this scenario. You ended the

relationship because it wasn’t working for you. Who wants to eat vomit?! Yeah, that look on your face right now? That’s what needs to happen every time you’re tempted to

return to your ex. Move on to someone who is good for you. That usually means someone totally different. Someone other than your ex.