A guy who’s marriage material isn’t looking to play the field. The thought of juggling multiple women exhausts him. These kinds of men exist, usually because either they’ve already dated around

or they were never much on dating in the first place. They can’t really explain it, but even in high school and college, they were more interested in having a

girlfriend than casually dating. If you’re with someone who wants to put a title on your relationship and embraces exclusivity, even if he’s not ready to get married tomorrow, monogamy

is probably on his radar. He’s a keeper.

Marriage ceremonies have vows in them. Vows are promises, commitments that you are going to be in a relationship for the long haul, no matter what. One way to know

if your guy is a future-husband-in-the-making is if he keeps his word now. He calls when he says he will. He keeps dates. He values your time. He’s reliable. A

man of his word is a man who is marriage material. (That also makes him a man who’s mad sexy too!)

When you ask a guy if he’s ready to fall in love, how he feels about kids or what his values are and he acts like a Mack truck was passing

by and he didn’t catch all of what you said, don’t ignore that. A man who’s not willing to go beneath the surface topics in conversation is usually a man who

likes to keep things light and casual. Or he’s a man who isn’t good at vulnerability. Either way, he’s not ready to say “I do”. You can’t get to the

altar without really knowing someone. And you can’t get to know them if they’re avoiding certain topics in conversation. A man who's ready for marriage is going to handle the questions

you have, and even present you with a few of his own.

Have mercy! HE. WILL. BE. EMOTIONALLY. AVAILABLE. What does that mean exactly? OK. Here are the signs of being in a relationship with a partner who is emotionally unavailable. If

they’re not good listeners. If they can’t empathize with your feelings and needs. If they are not able to make progress in a relationship. If they’re arrogant. If they have

unrealistically high expectations. If they are good at sex but horrible at intimacy. If they’re evasive about their lifestyle. If they try and make you feel like something is wrong

with you for wanting a relationship---this is someone who is emotionally unavailable. Marriage is the LAST thing on their mind.

No matter what your spiritual beliefs may be, you need someone who has some short of spiritual clarity. What do they do to stay centered and focused? What are their

faith practices? What values are important to them? And on the professional tip, you need someone who has goals and takes his career path very seriously. The last thing you

need is a man who is fine, charming but can’t hold down a job, has no income and is looking for you to take care of him rather than partner

up with him. There’s a big difference between the two. Always look for the signs of a man’s spiritual stability and professional focus and ambition.

A telling sign of a healthy relationship is that both people are better as the result of knowing one another. They are more confident. They are more productive. They are

happier and they see life in a more positive light. So much, in fact, that they want that person around to continue to help to keep them on the path of

progress. If you can directly attribute a man’s presence in your life with you growing as an individual, that’s a good man right there.

Rinse and repeat. We already mentioned this in the intro, but it needs to be reiterated. Some women end up getting hurt or even becoming jaded because they feel like

they wasted time on a man. A man who treated them well, but also a man who never showed any signs of wanting to be married. Listen, it really doesn’t matter

how many things about a guy that you can check off on your wish list. If he tells you that he’s not interested in getting married, he’s probably not going

to change his mind. At least not any time soon. Letting a man you’re interested in know that you do want to be a wife someday isn’t really first date conversation

material, but it definitely needs to come up by the third. If he looks at you like your hair is on fire or he flat out tells you “I’m not

even close to being at that point”, you know what Maya Angelou said. When people show you who they are, believe them. He may be friend potential, but he’s not

marriage material. Accept it for what it is now. So that you can get to someone who is…sooner.